When you’re dating someone new, getting invited over to his house for the first time is pretty exciting. However, it can also feel a little daunting, especially if he lives with his family or roommates. If you’re preparing to head over to your boyfriend’s house for the first time, read through these tips to make sure you’re ready for anything.

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Make plans to do something fun at his house.

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Wear something comfortable.

  1. No need to get glammed up for chilling at his house. If you know his family is going to be there, some pants and a nice blouse is a perfect combo of dressy yet casual. If it’s just him and his roommates, a pair of jeans and a fitted T-shirt is perfect. Whatever you pick out, make sure you feel comfortable and confident before you head out the door![2]
    • Don’t focus on footwear too much—you’ll probably be taking it off when you get in the house. Sneakers, flats, and booties are great options to choose from since you can slip them off quickly.
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Prepare to meet his parents or roommates.

  1. Be polite by interacting with your boyfriend's housemates. Nowadays, a lot of people live with someone else in the home. Double-check with him about who’s going to be there that day—if he lives with other people, be prepared to say hello or hang out with them for a bit.[3]
    • If he has roommates, it’s polite to say hi and hang with them for at least a few minutes before heading off to your boyfriend’s room.
    • If he lives with his parents, you can follow his lead on whether or not he wants to hang out with them. At the very least, be polite and introduce yourself. And you can never go wrong by complimenting your boyfriend in front of them![4]
    • It can be nerve-wracking to meet the people your boyfriend lives with for the first time. If you’re nervous, ask your boyfriend about them beforehand so you can have some questions locked and loaded. For instance, you might ask his mom about her pottery business or his roommate about how college is going.
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Respect the rules of the house.

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Don’t be afraid to use the restroom.

  1. It can be nerve-wracking to use someone else’s bathroom. However, holding it in will only make things worse! If you’re hanging out and you feel the urge to go, just excuse yourself and do your business. Hopefully, he’ll have some air freshener that you can spray when you’re done.[6]
    • If you’re super nervous about using his bathroom, try bringing along some Poo-Pourri. It’s a spray that you use in the toilet before you go, and it masks the scent of anything you expel.
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Try not to comment on the level of cleanliness.

  1. It might not quite be up to your standards. If your boyfriend lives alone or with other guys his age, his house might be a bit of a mess. It’s okay to help clear a place at the table or shuffle things around on the bed, but try not to make a huge deal about any messes.[9]
    • Be on the lookout for huge messes in his home, though. If he didn’t clean up at all before inviting you over, he might be a little too comfortable with the mess (and that can be a red flag).

About This Article

Erika Kaplan
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This article was co-authored by Erika Kaplan and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Erika Kaplan is a Dating Coach and Matchmaker for Three Day Rule, an exclusive matchmaking company across nine cities in the United States. With over six years of experience, Erika specializes in helping singles find quality matches through date coaching and premium matchmaking services. Erika graduated from Penn State with a Bachelor’s degree in Public Relations. She worked for Rolling Stone, Us Weekly, and Men’s Journal before leaving publishing to pursue her passion for connecting people. Erika has been featured on Lifetime, the Philadelphia Inquirer, and CBS as well as in Thrillist, Elite Daily, Men’s Health, Fast Company, and Refinery29. This article has been viewed 89,872 times.
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