Nerdy guys are thoughtful, smart, and caring. But let’s face it, they can be a little subtle and sometimes, super shy when it comes to showing you whether they like you or not. To help you tell if that cute nerd likes you—and to really win him over—we’ve put together a checklist of signs he likes you. Are you ready to study up on your nerdy crush?

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He mimics your body language.

  1. What’s his posture like when you talk to him? Nerdy guys might not directly say they like you, but their body language can tell you a lot. Watch for moments when he copies your body language and gestures.[3]
    • If you’re sitting at a table, try lacing your fingers together and see if he does the same thing with his hands.
    • If you’re standing up, try leaning in a little bit and see if he copies you.
    • To add a little flirtiness, throw out a nerdy fact: “Hey, did you know that mirror neurons in our brains make us mimic the behavior of people we like?”[4]
5

He reaches out on social media.

  1. He might be too shy to talk to you in person. Instead, he might show his interest by following what you’re doing online, texting you, or DMing you. Pay attention to how often, how fast, and how consistently he tries to engage with you online.[7]
    • To show him you’re interested, tag him in posts related to his nerdiest interests. For instance, if he’s a physics nerd, tag him in a post from Neil deGrasse Tyson.
    • Find out more about his nerdy interests by seeing what posts he likes and who he follows.
    • DM him a meme related to his favorite series or school subject.
    • Send him a nerdy pick up line.
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7

His friends tease him when you’re around.

8

He shares his nerdiest interests with you.

  1. Opening up to you is a nerdy guy’s way of connecting. Particularly if he’s introverted and a little shy, he’ll only want to open up to people he really likes.[11] When he likes you, he’ll feel comfortable talking about all his niche interests and want to geek out on what he likes, whether it’s his favorite subject in school or his favorite sci fi series.[12] Show him you like him, too, by encouraging him to talk about what he likes:
    • Ask questions about his interests. For instance: “So what’s the big difference between Python and Java?”
    • Participate in fandoms he likes. You could even rock a graphic tee with a logo from his favorite comic book series or movie.[13]
10

He waits for you to make the first move.

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    How can someone show interest with their eyes?
    Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
    Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
    Licensed Relationship Therapist
    Alysha Jeney is a Licensed Relationship Therapist, the Owner of Modern Love Counseling, and the Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box. She specializes in relationship therapy, intimacy building, and existential exploration. Alysha holds a BA in Psychology from The Metropolitan State University of Denver and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Regis University. She has been featured in publications such as The Washington Post and The Huffington Post.
    Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
    Licensed Relationship Therapist
    Expert Answer
    A person can show interest by intentionally locking their eyes with you and looking away after a few seconds. They may even wink or make expressions with their eyebrows.
  • Question
    What are the things a person may do if he is attracted to me?
    Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
    Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
    Licensed Relationship Therapist
    Alysha Jeney is a Licensed Relationship Therapist, the Owner of Modern Love Counseling, and the Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box. She specializes in relationship therapy, intimacy building, and existential exploration. Alysha holds a BA in Psychology from The Metropolitan State University of Denver and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Regis University. She has been featured in publications such as The Washington Post and The Huffington Post.
    Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
    Licensed Relationship Therapist
    Expert Answer
    He may ask you questions about your personal life and try to hang out with you. Besides this, he may give you a lot of attention and compliments.
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