How to Make an Aquarius Man Miss You After a Breakup

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: November 29, 2021 References

After breaking up with an Aquarius man, you might have some complicated feelings about him. In fact, you may miss him and hope he feels the same. If this is what you're going through, know that it's totally possible to make him miss you (and even get him back). Just show him that you're flourishing without him and subtly let him know that you still care. Read on for some more tips on how to get your freedom-loving Aquarius ex to pine for only you once again.

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Give him space.

Resist the urge to contact him for a few weeks. Blowing up his phone with "I miss you" texts might make him feel smothered. Instead, give him some time on his own. He'll wonder what you're doing and will likely come to miss you on his own terms. If you've gotta talk to him, keep things brief and only reach out occasionally.^{[1]
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- Use this time away to reflect on your relationship. Think about your actions (and your ex's) and how you might want to change in the future. As you learn about yourself and grow, your Aquarius ex will wonder what you're up to without him.^{[2]
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- If you're really missing him and get the urge to call him, try calling a friend instead. That way you can get your emotions out without relying on your ex.
- Be honest with yourself about whether getting your Aquarius man to miss you is a good idea. It's tough to accept, but if your relationship ended on bad terms or it wasn't so healthy, it might be best to move forward.

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Focus on your own passions to show off your independence.

Aquarians long for partners that are happy on their own. Take the breakup as an opportunity to prove how independent you really are. Throw yourself into your interests and try new things. When you can, post updates about your new endeavors on social media. Showing an Aquarius man that you're fine without him will make him want you more than anything.^{[3]
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- Throw yourself into the things that make you happy, whether that be sculpting, playing music, or fighting for social justice.
- You might also try taking classes or volunteering in your community.

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Go on adventures with your friends and family.

He's more likely to miss you if he notices your thriving social life. Jam-pack your schedule with fun plans. Post occasional updates about all of your adventures on social media to let everyone (including your Aquarius ex) know what you're up to. The more you hang out with your support system, the more confident and happy you will become. Your Aquarius man will be sure to take notice and miss you.^{[4]
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- After a breakup, it's tempting to pine and tell your ex how sad you are without them. This will likely turn off an always-independent Aquarius man. Showing him that you're more than fine without him is what will pull at his heartstrings.^{[5]
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- Fun things you can do with your friends and family include hiking, going out to eat, and taking day trips to new places.

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Be cool and friendly when you run into each other.

He'll likely want you back if he thinks you're unaffected by the breakup. If you run into each other, smile, ask him how he's doing, and keep a calm demeanor. If you end up catching up, keep things light and upbeat.
- You might say something like, "Hey, good to see you! I hope you've been doing well."
- Avoid asking about his personal life, like if he's dating anyone new. That might make him uncomfortable.

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Keep the drama to a minimum.

Seeming bitter or lashing out will really turn off an Aquarius. It's also best to avoid dating someone else just to make him jealous. This kind of drama will send an Aquarius running in the opposite direction, as they often struggle with emotionally-charged conversations. To keep the peace, resist the urge to send him angry texts, take some time before jumping into the dating scene, and hold off on any long talks about your past relationship.
- By taking the high road and remaining respectful, you'll encourage him to see you in a positive light again. That's guaranteed to make him miss you.
- If you find yourself getting worked up about your breakup, call a friend to vent instead.

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Make an effort to look your best when you see him.

He'll immediately remember how attracted he is to you. Wear outfits that make you feel super confident and keep up with your personal hygiene. You might even try changing up your appearance with a new hairstyle or fragrance for a fresh post-breakup look. He'll be struck by your glowing appearance when you hang out again and will likely really start to miss you.^{[6]
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- You don't have to reinvent yourself or change your looks drastically after a breakup. Just wear things that make you feel good about yourself and your confidence will shine through.

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Start up a friendship if you're comfortable.

Befriend him after you've taken at least a few weeks apart. After some time away from each other, try catching up with your Aquarius ex or even making plans. Rather than being super flirty or romantic, just be friendly for now. This will encourage him to remember the good times you had early on in your relationship when you were just getting to know each other.
- To bring up the subject, reach out and say something like, "Hey, I hope you've been doing well. Would you ever want to get coffee and catch up or something? I'd love to hang out and hear what you've been up to!"
- If things ended badly, he might not want to be friends. This may be hard to accept, but it's best to respect his decision. He may just need more time.

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Apologize for any mistakes you made in the relationship.

If things ended badly, he might need an apology before he can miss you. Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. If something you did contributed to the breakup, try giving him a heartfelt apology. Aquarians are always looking for ways to bring peace to the world, so he'll likely forgive you and want to make amends.^{[7]
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- Apologize to him in person, over text, or even with a handwritten letter. In your apology, include direct references to your mistake, a genuine show of remorse, and a promise to change your behavior going forward.
- Maybe you didn't respect your ex's passions in life. You might say, "I'm really sorry I didn't pay enough attention to your art. You're such a talented musician and I never went to your performances. I really regret that now."
- If he doesn't respond or isn't ready to forgive you, respect that and give him space. He still may come to miss you in time, especially now that he knows that you're sorry.

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Send him a memento that will remind him of you.

The key is to remind him of your relationship without being obvious. As you reconnect, you might try sending him something that makes him remember the good times in your relationship, like a song or a screencap from your favorite movie to watch together. Receiving a thoughtful reminder like this will encourage him to think of you fondly again.^{[8]
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- Text him a song you both liked listening to when you were together. You might add, "Heard this on the radio the other day and thought of you."
- Perhaps you and your ex enjoyed reading or looking at art together. Send him an excerpt from a book you both loved or a picture of a painting with sentimental value. Caption it with something simple like, "Remember this?"

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Engage in intellectual conversations with him.

Aquarians are attracted to the mind most of all. If you want this Aquarius man to miss you, try having thought-provoking discussions. When you talk, bring up topics like philosophy, religion, art, and politics. Ask him questions about his point of view and take an active interest in what he has to say. He'll likely return the favor and start really missing the intellectual bond the two of you shared as a couple.^{[9]
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- If you're catching up at a coffee shop, point out the art on the walls and ask him what he thinks of it.
- Message him a link to an interesting news story with the caption, "Just read this piece. I'd love to hear your thoughts on it!"
- Avoid super emotionally charged topics. An Aquarius man probably won't want to have a fiery debate about what went wrong in your relationship right now.

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Try new things together.

An Aquarius doesn't like to fall into a routine. As you start to rebuild your friendship (or even something more), make exciting plans that the two of you have never tried before. Avoid falling into old habits like going to the same restaurants you went to when you were together. Instead, try new places, shops, and parts of town to explore. He'll be super into this new, spontaneous version of you and may find himself pining to win back your affection.^{[10]
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- Rather than staying in to watch movies like you would have in the past, check out a local drive-in screening.
- Make a promise to only go to restaurants and coffee shops you've never been to before when you meet up.
- If you're not feeling the plans that you made, see if he would be up for changing them. Instead of going to the art museum, see if he wants to go rollerblading.

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Love yourself no matter what.

Don't put too much stock in how your Aquarius ex feels about you. This might leave you feeling hurt, and it could also make your ex feel pressured to feel a certain way (which no Aquarius wants to feel). Take good care of yourself and remember that you can thrive with or without your Aquarius ex.^{[11]
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- Practice self-care by eating healthy meals, exercising, and getting plenty of sleep.
- If you find yourself struggling with your self-esteem after a breakup, that's totally normal. Try boosting yourself back up again by remembering your strengths. Anytime you feel down, remind yourself of your talents and accomplishments.
- If you realize that your Aquarius ex doesn't miss you, it's okay to feel sad. Just remember that there are other people out there that will love you. Think of your time with this Aquarius man as a learning experience and put yourself out there again when you're ready.