How to Tell a Girl You Like Her in a Letter

Last Updated: November 4, 2022 Approved

You have your eye on a special someone, but find yourself unable to tell her how you feel. A letter is a way to compose your feelings and share them in a beautiful and unexpected way. Creating the letter involves listing out what you like about her and how she makes you feel. After you’ve read the letter and identified ways to improve it, rewrite the final draft. Deliver the letter and you’ll no longer need to keep your feelings a secret from the world.

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Composing the Letter

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Make a list of the things that you like about her. Don’t worry about organization. Jot down all the reasons you have for writing this letter. Even if it sounds weird, you can cross it out later. Focus on her actions and the way she makes you feel instead of only physical features.^{[1]
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- For example, you might list her bright smile followed by the way she greets you in the morning.
- Write down your honest feelings. For example, her smile might light up a dark morning, which makes you look forward to school. That’s a heartfelt compliment you can include in your letter.
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Start with why you’re writing the letter. Now it’s time to put your thoughts into the letter itself. Let her know that this is a romantic letter. That way, there’s no surprises and she reads the letter when she’s prepared for it. Mention that you have significant feelings to share and had to tell her.^{[2]
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- For example, say, “You are an amazing person and deserve to know it.”
- Another possible introduction is “I didn’t know how to tell you how I felt, so I wanted to write this letter.”
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Talk about what she adds to your life. Making her feel special involves more than flattering compliments. Maybe she’s a good friend who helped you through a difficult time. Being near her might help you be a better person. Telling her these things shows that you value her presence and that it means a lot to you.
- For example, you can say “You make me remember who I am” or “You make me unafraid to be me.”
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Bring up personal memories you have. Even if you haven’t spent a lot of time with her, come up with at least one memory. Most likely you’ll remember the day you first spotted her or the moment that made you like her. Use the memory to describe how she made you feel.^{[3]
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- For instance, you can say, “I saw you across the classroom, and you were so stunning that I knew I had to talk to you. But you were so stunning I was speechless.”
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Discuss what you like about her. Refer to the list you made earlier and avoid repeating anything you already mentioned. Find the details that feel meaningful to you and work them into short but powerful sentences. Compliment her, but don’t go overboard by writing a page of praises.^{[4]
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- Some examples you can include are “You are kind to everyone and I love your big heart” or “I love how you laugh even when times are tough.”
- You can include some similes such as, “Your eyes are like a deep blue ocean.” Don’t overdo it and instead write your feelings in your own words.
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End the letter by thanking her. Thank her for taking the time to read the letter. Tell her to continue to be an amazing person. Then you can tell her that you’d like to go on a date or be in a relationship. Say, “I’d like to take you on a date” or “I hope I can get to know you better, if that’s okay with you."
- She might not feel the same way you do. That’s normal, and she should always feel like that’s okay. Don’t pressure her or go overboard in planning a future together.

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Writing the Final Draft

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Read your first draft aloud. Find a quiet place and read the letter to yourself. It might feel a little awkward at first, but keep going. Find any spots that sound awkward or don’t flow well. Read the letter at least one more time after that. This is a special letter, so make it as good as you can.^{[5]
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Note any mistakes you need to fix. Have a pen on hand and mark the errors as you read along. Draw lines when you need to reorganize sentences to make them sound better. Circle any words you need to change or correct. Cross out anything that sounds weird and remove or edit it.
- Don't be afraid to make notes too, like "expand this section" or "add another example"
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Check your spelling. Her name is a key part of the letter, and getting that wrong spoils everything you say. In addition, look up any long or difficult words you’re unsure about. Make sure you spell similar-sounding words such as “there” and “their” correctly. Also, edit out any Internet abbreviations or shorthand such as “u” or “ur.”^{[6]
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- Spellings like “u” or “ur” are acceptable in text messages but look tacky on paper.
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Rewrite the letter neatly. Take a deep breath, grab a clean sheet of paper, and write the letter again. Work slowly so your words are easy to read and understand. Include all the corrections you decided upon earlier. Get that final copy to look as good as she does.
- Use blue or black ink for the final letter. These colors are the easiest ones to read.
- You may also type your letter on a computer. Make sure to use any spell checker and grammar correction features in the word processing program you use.
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Read the letter one last time. Read it aloud to yourself again. You may still notice some spots where you can improve the writing. Mark those spots and rewrite the letter again. It’s meant to be heartfelt and impressive, so the time spent rewriting is worth it when you create a letter you’re proud to hand to the girl you like.
- If you found any errors, then you will have to rewrite the letter a final time again.

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Delivering the Letter

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Write your number on the letter to show she can call you. There’s no guarantee you’ll get a response, but she can call you or send you a text message if she has something to say. She might feel too nervous to respond face-to-face. As phone contacts, the two of you can talk in private.
- If you don't have a phone number that she can call, consider leaving your email or social media name.
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Include an envelope so she can write a response. She might feel more comfortable writing her response. Place the envelope inside your letter and give her time to respond. She may hand the envelope to you or mail it. It can take a few days, but no one else will see her response.^{[7]
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- This envelope should be smaller than the one you are sending the actual letter in.
- If you can't find a smaller envelope, you can fold it up instead.
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Slip the letter into her desk or locker to stay anonymous. Look for a spot where she’ll quickly notice the letter, but no one else will. You know she’ll come back to these spots, and most likely no one else will see the letter before she does. Push the letter into the vent on her locker or leave it visible on her desk.
- If you leave it on her desk, hide the letter from others by sticking one end inside a book or between some papers.
- Alternatively, you can mail the letter to her.
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Give the letter to her directly to make sure she gets it. Hand delivery is tough, but you’re courageous. Talk to her when she’s alone and say, “I have something important to say to you.” This way, no one else has a chance to see the letter and she can read it when she’s ready.

Warnings

Let the letter stand for itself. Don’t give a gift or do anything else that distracts from it.

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Don’t let anyone else read the letter, and don’t let anyone know you’re writing it.

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Don’t write anything that’s not your own words. If you get caught, it ruins your letter.

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Avoid adding anything sexual to the letter. This will give a bad impression.

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