How to Love a Libra

Co-authored by Jessica Lanyadoo and Eric McClure

Last Updated: October 3, 2022 References Approved

If someone is born between September 23rd and October 22nd, they’re a Libra. The Libra is represented by the scales, which symbolizes their defining characteristic: a desire for balance and harmony. If you have feelings for a Libra, you may need to be patient, romantic, and prepared to treat them to the finer things in life. However, while it’s fun to think through how a person’s astrological sign may impact your relationship with them, it’s important to treat each Libra as a unique individual and not a set of traits that may not accurately describe them as a person.

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Attracting a Libra

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Ask your Libra lots of questions to get them to open up to you. Libras often enjoy expressing themselves and your interest in them will help them open up. Libras are often concerned with seeing everyone else's point of view, and they will appreciate that you want to know about what they think and what they’re up to.^{[1]
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- Ask your Libra about their favorite hobbies, music, and food.^{[2]
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- Ask about your Libra's take on current events. They’ll likely want to explore every side of an issue, so make sure you let them know you care about what they think.^{[3]
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Flatter your Libra with genuine compliments to show your interest. Libras love to be complimented and appreciated. Consider why you are attracted to this person. It could be their friendly smile, fantastic fashion sense, way with words, or some other characteristic. Let them know you appreciate those things about them.^{[4]
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- A Libra’s preoccupation with beauty includes maintaining their own beauty, so make sure you compliment their new outfit, haircut, or shoes whenever they make a change.
- Don't compliment your Libra on their beautiful singing voice and then never mention it again. Reaffirming how much you value your potential partner will make them feel secure and assure them that your compliments are real.^{[5]
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Embrace your Libra's social side and join them when they go out. Libras tend to be social butterflies. They’re often very popular and they revel in social situations. Accompany them to parties and events whenever you’re invited, and try not to get frustrated if their calendar fills up quickly. If you can't keep up with their rigorous social schedule, that's okay. Remember, Libras tend to be fair if you’re honest and present all of the facts.^{[6]
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- Don't freak out if your Libra is a little flirty with other people. Libras often try to treat everyone fairly, so you may feel like the apple of their eye until you notice they’re giving someone else their attention. This is just a part of their personality, so if you can't be secure about your relationship, you may want to pursue someone else.
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Be fair and consider all perspectives before handing down judgement. It is said that Libras are extremely concerned with fairness and justice, and there's no bigger turnoff to a Libra than someone who jumps to conclusions and rushes to judgement. Before making a decision, take a moment to consider all the different sides of the issue at hand. Your Libra will likely appreciate that you are trying to be fair and balanced in your judgement.^{[7]
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- If you selfishly try to get more than your fair share of something, or you dismiss someone without giving them a chance to present their case, a Libra may quickly lose interest in you as a potential mate.
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Invite your Libra on a date to a museum, gallery opening, or concert. Libras are artistic and appreciate the beautiful things in life. Choose an artistic event that both of you will enjoy and invite your crush to accompany you. Heading to the opera, taking a walk through a sculpture garden, or spending a night watching foreign films are all solid options.^{[8]
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- A Libra's love of beauty touches all aspects of their life, so always try to look your best and keep your home clean when you know they’re coming over.^{[9]
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Dating a Libra

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Give a Libra plenty of time to make big decisions. Libras supposedly like to see things from every angle, so let them take their time while they’re working through a question. Try not to get frustrated if they take a long time when they’re trying to figure out what to eat for dinner, which movie they want to see, or which pair of shoes is right for them. This applies to relationship decisions too, so don’t get down if a Libra doesn’t commit right away. Once you’re in, you’re in it for the long haul!^{[10]
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- Don't poke fun at your Libra for being indecisive. They often need patience and understanding while they make up their minds.^{[11]
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- If you pressure a Libra to make a decision and they end up feeling like it was a bad choice, they may blame and resent you for rushing them.
- When it comes to smaller decisions, like where to get dinner, it's okay to take charge if they’re having trouble deciding. They may even feel relieved you took that issue off of their plate.^{[12]
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Cuddle, give gifts, and share your feelings to increase the romance. Libras are usually very romantic and your partner will probably respond well to romantic gestures. You could give them flowers, chocolates, or take them out to a nice candle-lit dinner. The bigger the gesture, the more likely they are to fall deeply in love with you.^{[13]
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- Put love notes in their coat pocket or inside a book they’re reading to surprise them later.^{[14]
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- Surprise them with a bedroom decorated with candles, rose petals, and expensive champagne.
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Do something luxurious on occasion to keep your partner happy. Try booking a room at a fancy hotel, taking them to a nice restaurant, or traveling to an exotic location to share a picnic under the stars. Make sure gifts and experiences are elegant and refined. Libras love comfort and extravagance, so taking them somewhere nice will help you build your relationship with one another.^{[15]
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- Luxury doesn’t require expensive dinners or travel plans! Pamper your Libra with a spa day or breakfast in bed.^{[16]
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Encourage your Libra to be open and honest, even if you may get hurt. Honest communication can be difficult for some Libras. When trying to keep things harmonious, they can bury or ignore messy feelings. If they’re angry or full of doubt about the relationship, they won’t jump up to volunteer their feelings. Unfortunately, it’s usually more damaging for people to repress their feelings than share them, so you’re better off encouraging them to express themselves.^{[17]
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- Tell your Libra you value their opinion, and emphasize that the best thing they can do is be honest with you, even if you think the truth will hurt.
- Libras may seem detached from emotional situations. As an air sign, they tend to watch things from above, and try to remove themselves from messy entanglements. This doesn't mean they don’t have feelings, just that they’re trying to be impartial and fair by taking a step back.

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Looking for Compatibility with Libras

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Get ready for a passionate, lasting connection if you are a Gemini. You will likely both love travel, shopping, socializing, and adventure. You and your Libra may eventually get so in sync with one another that you make other people jealous! Though you can both be very flirtatious, the romance and spontaneity in your relationship will keep the both of you invested in the relationship. Share ideas, debate, and be careful not to wear each other out!^{[18]
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- Keep in mind both Geminis and Libras can be indecisive. If your partner isn't stepping up with the decision making, you'll have to make the calls to keep things from going stagnant.
- Pay attention to your finances. Since both of you will likely love luxury and spending money on the finer things, you may be in danger of over-spending. Indulge each other, but take care that you are being responsible with your money.
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Find your best friend and thought partner if you are an Aquarius. You and your Libra will never run out of things to discuss, and you're both likely to be social and fun-loving. Choose date activities that will stimulate conversation and allow you and your Libra to really dig into issues. Check out thought-provoking films, outsider art, or read the same book and get into a deep discussion.^{[19]
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- Try to keep your rebellious streak in check. You may not care much what other people think, but this is very important to Libras. Don't mock them for caring about manners or their desire to be popular.
- A Libra will likely require more romance than you’re normally into. Try to hold their hand and cuddle a little more often than you normally might in another relationship.
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Watch out for conflicts and try to be patient if you’re a Cancer. While you're both seeking a connection, Libras are often looking for mental compatibility and can appear detached to someone seeking a primarily emotional connection. Cancers can be moody, while many Libras try to avoid rocking the boat. You will have to work hard to understand one another’s points of view to make this difficult match work.^{[20]
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- Being very social and flirtatious is part of dating some Libras. Try not to get angry or see it as a sign of disloyalty if your Libra wants to go out and spends lots of time with friends. They’re deeply loyal, even if it doesn’t seem like it all the time.
- Cancers tend to get overly emotional, while Libras tend to withhold emotions. Work on being open with one another and you’ll be able to work it out no problem.
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Compromise often and try to open up if you’re a Capricorn. Capricorns are often very serious and career-minded, while many Libras are social butterflies and think more about relationships than work. Libras usually appreciate compliments, while Capricorns tend to struggle giving praise. As a Capricorn, try to open yourself up more often and say “yes” to things when you’d normally say “no.” In many ways, you’re likely to be compatible, but the friction in personalities can lead to conflict if you aren’t careful.^{[21]
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- Try letting your Libra's friendliness and sociability work for your career. They’ll be a great date for work functions. Your boss, coworkers, and clients will all love your charismatic partner.
- A traditional role of breadwinner and homemaker can work for you two, but it may also cause things to become stagnant and dull. Make sure you're breaking up work with vacations and avoid spending every weekend away from your partner.^{[22]
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Take things slow and don’t go overboard if you’re a Taurus. Both Taurus and Libra signs are ruled by Venus, and you will likely enjoy a relationship full of passion and intimacy. Watch out for disputes over where the relationship goes at first; both of you may be overenthusiastic and prone to under-planning. If you can keep things from going out of hand, you’re sure to have a fun partner and a fulfilling relationship.^{[23]
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- Libras tend to avoid conflict and withhold emotions, while Taurus signs tend to express often and share everything. This is actually a great pairing if you keep balance in the relationship!
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Prepare for a fun relationship if you’re a Pisces, but stay focused. Pisces and Libra are a natural match. Libras tend to be very calculated and social, while you’re likely very impulsive and social. The key thing here is that you’re both interested in adventure. Get ready for some late-night chats, fun parties, and a fulfilling social life. Just don’t forget to take the trash out before garbage day and remember to set your alarm clocks—you’ll both be in danger of glossing over the boring, essential stuff.^{[24]
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- You’re unlikely to encounter any conflict with one another, but you may come into disagreement over practical things. When you should go file your taxes, start apartment hunting, or mail a check may become points of friction if you aren’t organized.
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Watch out for misunderstandings if you’re a Scorpio. Scorpios tend to be suspicious, careful, and detail-oriented, while Libras are often flirtatious, trusting, and withholding. This can lead to some ridiculous misunderstandings early on and it may take the two of you time to figure out how to communicate. Once you do get your footing, enjoy your time together! Scorpios and Libras tend to have very intense, loving relationships once they sort through the initial phase of the relationship.^{[25]
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- Try not to overthink things. Libras are fun-loving and flirty, but they’re deeply trusting. Don’t read too much into things and you should be fine.
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Keep your passions cool and your mind open if you’re an Aries. Aries are often passionate, driven, and confident, while Libras can be balanced, harmonious, and diplomatic. This can lead to some clashes if the two of you aren’t willing to compromise and see the see the other person’s perspective. The good news is that if you can solve these problems early and build your relationship on mutual respect and compromise, you and your Libra can make a phenomenal pair.^{[26]
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- Your love of being number one is a respectable sign of your drive, but a Libra may interpret this as self-absorption or narcissism. Try to keep any boastful bragging to yourself—especially at the beginning of the relationship.
- If you can establish understanding early on in your relationship, a Libra is a great partner for you. Their balanced nature will really help you out if you tend to lose your patience or temper.
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Enjoy a loving, thoughtful experience as a Sagittarius, but stay classy. A Libra and a Sagittarius make a phenomenal pair. They’ll open your mind to the finer things in life and help you see the beauty in ugly situations. At the same time, your grit and impulsiveness will help shake Libra into action and keep their head out of the clouds. This is a great pair, but be careful with that joyful grit of yours. Too much cursing, shouting, or late-night partying may turn your partner off if you overdo it.^{[27]
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- One of the best upsides of this pairing is that your main issue is fairly easy to solve. You probably just need to throw a nice shirt or dress on more often than you normally would, while your Libra just needs to put up with a cheap dinner every once in a while.
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Hold your competitive streak in check as a Leo to grow as a couple. Leos tend to be headstrong and focused, while Libras tend to be more relaxed and open. Leo is also a fire sign, while Libra is an air sign. In a way, the two of you are likely very compatible since your Libra partner will push you to pursue things you enjoy. Just remember that you aren’t competing with your partner! If you can compartmentalize your feelings, you’re sure to find a supporting and loving partner in a Libra.^{[28]
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- Leos tend to say “yes” to everything, while Libras often say “let me think about it.” This is a good thing when it comes to minor decisions, but it can cause friction if you’re discussing an important decision.
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Be more self-sufficient and take risks to make things work as a Virgo. As a Virgo, you may be shy, respectful, and thoughtful. Since Libras aren’t known for being open books that say what they’re feeling, this match can lead to some difficult interactions. While your first impulse may be to try and please your partner, try to do things that you find fulfilling and interesting. Don’t focus on over-analyzing the relationship and gamble a little bit when it comes to sharing your feelings. This pairing can work, but you may need to step outside of your comfort zone more often.^{[29]
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- When your Libra goes out and parties with their friends, don’t sit at home worrying about why they didn’t invite you. Go out and find something fun to do! Don’t worry too much and don’t overthink things. Libras are usually extremely loyal once they’re committed to something.

Expert Q&A

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What do Libra's want?

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

Jessica Lanyadoo

Astrologer & Psychic Medium

Expert Answer

Libras love flattery. Compliment their clothes, the way they look, or the way they speak and you'll have them blushing in no time. Don't overemphasize their looks, though. Compliment the way they interact with others as well. Libras are very diplomatic and they take pride in their relationships.