How to Date a Gemini

Last Updated: February 3, 2021 Approved

Geminis are people that are curious, talkative, versatile and mentally active. Geminis go everywhere together, hand-in-hand, symbolizing their dual nature. Though Geminis are active and fun people to be with, they have two important weaknesses; their ability to talk non-stop and how they continuously distract themselves easily. But don't worry, this article will teach you how to date a Gemini with ease.

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Knowing What to Do

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Listen to them and engage them in conversation. Being natural chatterboxes, Geminis love to talk. If you don't listen, talk, or if you interrupt often, the Gemini might think you are not interested or don't care. Don't stress yourself out too much about finding something to talk about, however. Gemini are creative enough on their own, and will likely find something to talk about.
- Geminis are curious and love to learn. If you are an expert on something, don't hesitate to share your knowledge. You'll impress your date.
- Geminis love to debate. They are not arguing; they are simply trying to see things from a different perspective and sharpen their mind.^{[1]
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- Geminis are known for being good at communication. If you have an issue in your relationship, don't try to hide it. Instead, try to discuss it.^{[2]
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Bring something new into the relationship to keep things interesting. Geminis enjoy being active and trying new things. If you find yourself dating a Gemini, be prepared to experience new things. It might be a good idea to bring something new into the relationship as well. For example, if you are going out on a date, try to find some place new to go/dine/drink each time.^{[3]
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- If your date is really into something, you should not get used to it; he or she might want to try something completely different the next time you meet.
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Be patient when they get moody or indecisive. Sometimes, dating a Gemini can feel like you are dating two different people. This should come as no surprise; Gemini are represented by twins. One moment, a Gemini can be happy and cheerful, and the next moment, he or she can be grumpy and moody.^{[4]
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- When a Gemini becomes moody, don't take it personally. Be patient, and let the mood swing pass. You can also try talking to him or her, and find out what is wrong.
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Embrace and encourage the Gemini's inner child. Gemini are more in touch with their inner child than other signs. They love to joke around and do pranks. Some of their jokes might be rather juvenile too, but that is part of their charm. Don't try to hold a Gemini back or force him/her to change. Even if you are serious by nature, either join in on their fun, or let them express themselves fully.^{[5]
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Be prepared for a social life, but expect some quiet moments too. Geminis are social butterflies by nature, but sometimes they like to stay at home too. Don't get used to them always wanting to party, and don't hold them back if they just want to stay at home and watch movies. If you are introverted or anti-social by nature, be up front about this. Try to figure out some sort of compromise.
- An example of a compromise would be going to a smaller party, which would be less stressful to you, but still appeal to the Gemini.
- Another example of a compromise would be going to a party one weekend, and staying in the next.
- You can also try to slowly introduce yourself to the Gemini's social circle. For example, you can start off with smaller parties and less crowded situations, and build your way up to larger, wilder events.

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Knowing What to Avoid

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Don't force a Gemini to make decisions when he or she becomes indecisive. Duality is a major aspect of Geminis. Because of this, they often find themselves stuck between two choices. One part of them might want one thing, and another part of them might want something completely different.^{[6]
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- If your date can't decide between Italian or sushi for dinner, you could say something like: Well, we had pasta last week. Why don't we try sushi tonight? That new restaurant down the street looks good."
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Don't ever break a Gemini's trust. A Gemini can eventually forgive you, but he or she will never forget what happened.^{[7]
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Don't hold a Gemini back, and don't control him or her. Gemini are very independent. They don't need someone to constantly hold their hand, and they most certainly don't like being controlled. Geminis need space to experience the world on their own. If you try to control a Gemini, you will end up with a very unhappy boyfriend or girlfriend.
- At the same time, however, remember to offer support if a Gemini asks for it.
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Don't get used to anything a Gemini says, does, or wants. Geminis are known for being full of contradictions. They are also known for being spontaneous and wanting to try new things. Their personalities are also multidimensional. Just because the Gemini you are dating likes the outdoors does not mean that he or she will always want to go hiking; there might be a time when he or she just wants to stay home. When the Gemini you are dating wants to try something different, go for it; don't try to force the "old way" upon them. Instead, embrace the change.^{[9]
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- At the same time, if the Gemini you are dating is suddenly upset or unhappy, it would always be a good idea to ask what is wrong instead of simply accepting it as the new "norm."
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Don't get upset if a Gemini changes his or her mind suddenly, and cancels or changes a plan. Being represented by the twins, Geminis have fickle, ever-changing minds. They can change and cancel plans last minute. Do not take this the wrong way. It is likely not personal. Instead, try to accept it as part of the Gemini's ever-changing nature.
- If this really bothers you, however, talk to the Gemini about it. Do not accuse him or her of "always flaking." Instead, explain that you take plans seriously, and that it hurts you when they are suddenly changed.^{[10]
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What do Geminis like to talk about?

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Geminis are interested in a wide variety of things. The key to dating a Gemini is sharing information that you're both interested in and listening to your crush explore their ideas on the topic. Geminis are inquisitive and like being engaged in exciting conversations.
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Can a relationship between an Aries woman an a Gemini man work out?

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Certainly, but it won't be easy. The relationship will certainly be filled with energy and lots of adventure. There may, however, be potential for misunderstandings, jealousy, etc. Firstly, both of you must be up front and open about how you are feeling. If your Aries man is doing something that bothers you, let him know. Secondly, both of you must be flexible, and willing to make some compromises. For example, if your Gemini man is flirtatious towards other women, he will need to tone it down. At the same time, you might have to learn to accept his fickle nature, inability to make decisions, and constantly changing his mind.
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What can I do to get a Gemini man to stop cheating and focus on his studies?

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By cheating, if you mean him flirting with other people: try to talk to him about it. Gemini tend to be flirtatious by nature. He may not intend it as cheating. Let him know how much it hurts/bothers you. By cheating, if you mean cheating on homework and exams: talk to him about it. Ask him why he is cheating. Maybe he needs help understanding the material. See if you can help him with his studies. Also, tell him that it is not always important what grade he gets in the end, but that he simply does the best he can--he might simply be anxious about getting that A.

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Don't try to play hard to get for a long period of time; Geminis get impatient in a short period of time, so they'll lose interest if you do so.

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Don't try to control a Gemini, or hold him/her back. Geminis are independent, and need their space to grow and explore.

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Not all Geminis are the same. Some might have the typical Gemini traits, while others might have just the opposite. Always get to know your date as an individual.

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