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Convincing your parents to let you wear a thong may seem like an impossible task. With enough preparation and strategy your chance of convincing them strengthens. Convince them with a persuasive argument that will leave them confident in your abilities.
Steps
Preparing Your Argument
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1Plan your strategy. The best course of action is a combination of appealing to your parents’ reasonable side, and appealing to their emotional side. You want to hit them from both angles to make sure your argument is thorough. That shows them how important this is to you.
- Most people make decisions based on a combination of reason and emotion. They are interconnected, always influencing each other. That is why you always want to appeal to someone’s reason and emotion when you are trying to influence them.
- When you plan your strategy, write down how you will approach them reasonably. What kinds of things do your parents typically react to on a logical level? Then, write down the things you can say to them that will affect them emotionally. What are their weaknesses? Do they have a strong sense of pride? Are they quick to avoid fear? These are the kinds of things you should be thinking about.
- Keep a close eye on your parents for a while to see what kinds of things they react to, so you have a better idea of what kinds of things you can say, and what topics to avoid.[1]
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2Know why you want to wear a thong. An important part of your strategy is appealing to your parents’ sense of reason. A well-reasoned argument includes persuasive justifications for wearing a thong. Write down five or six logical reasons why you want to wear a thong.[2]
- Thongs don’t show panty lines. The main benefit of this is that it avoids attention to your butt. Surely your parents can get on board with that.
- Thongs last longer. Since there is less fabric to deal with, they reshape better than regular panties. If you change shape at all, it is less likely that you will have to buy new panties, saving money.
- Thongs keep you cooler in hot temperatures. They are lightweight, allowing for better airflow. By avoiding sweat in your panties you will also avoid possible skin rashes or blemishes.[3]
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3Show them you are responsible. Prove to your parents you are a responsible person who makes responsible choices. Doing this will give your argument more credibility. Kick up the responsibility before your argument happens so it does not look obvious.
- If you have chores or homework, do them on time without being asked.
- Save your money instead of spending it on frivolous things.
- Do not stay out late or come home drunk.
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4Be prepared to pay for your thong. Take control of the situation by offering to pay for your thong. This shows them that you have put thought into the decision, rather than being impulsive. This is also an opportunity to show them you have saved your money.
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5Practice your argument. To be convincing you need to have the discussion with your parents full of confidence. One of the best ways to achieve confidence is to practice what you are going to say to your parents, so you are not bumbling over yourself or forgetting your arguments. Imagine that your parents are there with you when you practice.[4]
- Read your notes out loud in front of a mirror. By the time you sit down with your parents to convince them, you will be well prepared.[5]
- Be sure you pace yourself and take breaths. You want your practice to be as natural as possible so that your conversation with them does not look rehearsed.[6]
- Keep practicing until you feel confident you are ready to talk with them in a calm and collected voice. Once you feel comfortable with what you are going to say, you are ready to convince them.
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6Approach your parents about the conversation. When you are ready to ask your parents to talk, there are a few things to consider. Ask when they seem to be in a good mood. Do not be pushy when you ask, be nice about it. Make sure you choose a time that is good for everyone. Weekends are best, when your parents are less likely to be stressed out.[7]
Convincing Your Parents
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1Bring your notes with you. You may not need them because you practiced what you want to say, but you should have them with you in case you forget anything and need to reference to them. You can hide them in your pocket or another discreet place.[8]
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2Broach the subject calmly. Open the conversation by letting them know this is something you have considered and want to ask their permission for. Let them know that you want to tell them why, and that they can ask questions after. Try to control the conversation as much as possible. The more you are interrupted, the easier it will be for you to lose your place and forget what to say.[9]
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3Go through your list of logical reasons. One by one, tell your parents all the logical reasons you want to wear a thong and believe they should support you in this decision. Whether it is to hide panty lines, be more comfortable, avoid pimples, or any other number of reasons.
- Try to get through your whole list without interruptions, but be polite if they do happen.
- If you get resistance, offer to provide them with sources to back up your reasons. This way they know you are not making excuses.
- Feel free to wing it if you come up with more reasons while you are talking with them. Do not feel like you have to stick to what you practiced from your notes.
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4Appeal to their emotions. Once you have gone through your logical reasons you can appeal to their emotional side. Studies have shown that emotional arguments can be quite effective. Remind them that you are growing up, old enough to make decisions about how to adorn your own body.[10]
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5Invite questions. They may have questions so be prepared for that. Even if they do not, invite questions from them. Validate and answer every question they have to the best of your ability. Any question you cannot answer, offer to answer after some research or further thought.[11]
- They might want to know why you are interested in wearing a thong. They may ask you why you feel like you are ready for a thong. They might even ask you why you think they should agree with you.[12]
- They might ask about boys. What if they see you as a sex object? Why are you trying to flaunt yourself to them? It might be a good idea to have an answer prepared for this just in case.[13]
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6Give them time to talk it over or think about it. They might not have an answer for you right away. Offer to give them time to talk it over between the two of them and get back to you. This gives them time to ask questions or think about your well-thought out argument.
Reacting to Their Response
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1Be prepared for any response. Do not assume you know what they will say. Prepare yourself for the possibility that they will say “no” or drag the discussion out. It is a good idea to come up with possible solutions to those scenarios, even if they do not happen.
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2React calmly. Regardless of your parents’ response, it is important that you react in a calm and collected manner. They need to see that you are mature enough to make your own decisions. If they say, “no” now, they may be more likely to say, “yes” to the next decision based on your reaction.[14]
- If they respond with an immediate “no”, don’t storm off in a huff or raise your voice. Listen to what they have to say, or suggest that they discuss the topic again later. The important thing is that you respond to them with respect. They may still come around.[15]
- If you feel yourself getting upset, breathe. Check to see if your body is tensing up, and relax your body. If none of that works and everyone is still glaring at each other, tell a joke. Humor is a great way to defuse a tense situation.[16]
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3Ask them why if they say no. If they are still not convinced, ask them why. You may be able to address their concerns or counter their objections. If they do not want to talk about it anymore, at least you know the reason for future reference.[17]
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4Offer a compromise. If your parents will not budge, offer them a compromise. Maybe you can suggest revisiting the topic later after you have shown more responsibility. Perhaps you can agree to get a thong at a certain age. You can ask them what compromise works for them.[18]
- Find out what your common interests are with them and work from there. You want to be seen as a grown-up, and they want to encourage your maturation, right? That’s a great place to start negotiating.
- Waiting until everyone is calm will make the process much easier. This is one conversation where you want to avoid dealing with too much emotion. Instead, try to stick to facts and needs. Be honest with them about your goals and offer a compromise that will please them but still get you what you ultimately want.
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5Drop the subject. If all else fails, accept your fate and walk away. Do not continue to beg or harass your parents. Doing that will only diminish any chance of convincing them later, and it will put them in a bad mood. Walking away from the argument with grace allows you to keep your parents’ respect.[19]
Warnings
- Do not whine. If you are asking your parents for the very first time they will probably be in a bit of shock. Give it some time to sink in.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Be reasonable. Your parents will likely let you wear a functional, simple thong but not the lacey-see-through one that says "Hottie" on it.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Never tell your parents you want one "because it's hot and sexy". That will not go over very well.⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ http://www.eiconsortium.org/reprints/ei_issues_and_common_misunderstandings.html
- ↑ http://thelogiccafe.net/logic/ref1.htm
- ↑ http://www.bustle.com/articles/147113-7-reasons-ill-never-stop-wearing-thongs-no-matter-how-many-wedgies-might-come
- ↑ http://wittcom.com/how-to-develop-confidence-speaking/
- ↑ http://www.speechworks.net/use-a-mirror-to-improve-your-presentation-style/
- ↑ http://wittcom.com/how-to-develop-confidence-speaking/
- ↑ http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/worklife/03/25/cb.you.want.work.weekends/index.html?iref=24hours
- ↑ http://www2.law.temple.edu/voices/should-you-use-notes-during-a-closing-argument/
- ↑ http://thescienceexplorer.com/brain-and-body/neuroscience-tips-remain-calm-argument
- ↑ http://qz.com/521628/keep-losing-arguments-a-psychologist-explains-why-emotions-are-more-persuasive-than-logic/
- ↑ http://www.speakingaboutpresenting.com/audience/presentation-question-time/
- ↑ http://www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/should-i-let-my-teen-daughter-wear-a-thong/
- ↑ http://edition.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/04/19/granderson.children.dress/
- ↑ http://thescienceexplorer.com/brain-and-body/neuroscience-tips-remain-calm-argument
- ↑ http://thescienceexplorer.com/brain-and-body/neuroscience-tips-remain-calm-argument
- ↑ http://thescienceexplorer.com/brain-and-body/neuroscience-tips-remain-calm-argument
- ↑ http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/227296
- ↑ http://www.mediate.com/articles/eilermanD7.cfm
- ↑ http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/etiquette-manners/when-to-walk-away-from-an-argument?page=1
- ↑ http://www.herroom.com/tanga,panties,92,002,10.html
About This Article
Convincing your parents to let you wear a thong might not be easy, but if you stay calm and give them reasons, you’ll have the best chance. Wait for a good time when they’re not busy or stressed so they’ll be more likely to say yes. Explain why you want to wear a thong. For example, you could say that it will make you feel more confident, you won’t sweat as much in it, it won’t show your panty lines, and it’ll last longer than regular panties. You can also offer to pay for the thong yourself. If they’re still reluctant, remind them that you’re getting older and you should be able to make decisions about your own body. If they say no, stay calm and thank them for considering. This will make you look more mature and they’ll be more likely to say yes in the future. For more tips, including how to practice your argument, read on!