If you’re a little nervous that you aren’t feeling the same sparks from when you first started dating, what can you do to bring them back? It’s perfectly normal for the honeymoon phase to fade after a few months or years, but that doesn’t mean all the romance is gone. You can still do a lot to have fun and make happy memories together and keep the feeling of your honeymoon phase going. Scroll down for a list of exciting ways to keep the romance alive in your relationship!

This article is based on an interview with our dating coach, John Keegan. Check out the full interview here.

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Do something nice for your partner every day.

  1. Your partner will love a simple daily reminder of how much you care. You could give them a compliment to start their morning good note, send them words of encouragement throughout a busy day, or do a chore for them without you asking. Staying involved in your partner’s life in little ways each day can help you deepen your connection again.[1]
    • Do something based on your partner’s love language. If their love language is acts of service, try cooking them a meal or running an errand they’ve been putting off.[2]
    • You could make a point to give them a big hug or cuddle them when you’re together.
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Go out on regular date nights.

  1. Break your normal routines so you have time to connect with each other. Just because you’ve been with each other for a while doesn’t mean you have to stop going on dates. Try to plan a night every couple of weeks where you can do something exciting as a couple so you can bond and have fun together. Some date ideas could be:[3]
    • Going out for dinner
    • Seeing a new movie or play
    • Taking a walk through the park
    • If you want to save some money, have a date night at home! Plan a fun movie night or cook a delicious dinner together.
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Try new activities together.

  1. You’ll grow closer as a couple when you experience new things. Doing something new with your partner actually sparks the same part of your brain when you first fell for them. Rather than falling into a routine with your partner, look for exciting opportunities that you can do together. Break your comfort zone and do something you normally wouldn’t do so you can grow and make fun, new memories. Some things you might try include:[4]
    • Playing a new board game
    • Visiting a local museum
    • Trying an intramural sport
    • Taking a dance class together
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Surprise your partner with a gift.

  1. An unexpected gift makes your partner appreciate you even more. If you see something small that reminds you of your partner, consider getting it for them. It could be something they’ve mentioned in the past, their favorite drink from the coffee shop, or anything you see that makes you think of them. You don’t have to expect anything in return—just try to make your partner smile so they know that you still care.[5]
    • Bring home a bouquet of flowers for your spouse when they’re having a rough day.
    • Get them something they pointed out last time they were at the store to show that you’re paying attention to them.
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Write each other love letters.

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Prioritize time for intimacy.

  1. Maintain your physical connection so it doesn’t fizzle out. It’s normal for your sex life to slow down the longer you’re in a relationship, but you can still make time to be close and intimate with each other. If your intimacy doesn’t feel as spontaneous as it used to, try to mix it up and initiate when you’re in the mood so you can deepen your bond.[7]
    • Initiate sex at spontaneous times so you can keep your partner on their toes and reignite your romance.
    • Try using new positions or toys in the bedroom if you want to experiment with something new.
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Plan a vacation (or staycation) together.

  1. A few days off together gives you a chance to recharge and reconnect. If you and your partner have had a small trip you’ve wanted to take, schedule a time where you can both get away and spend the time together.[8] That way, you break the routine of everyday life and can come back feeling refreshed and even closer to your partner.[9]
    • Take a camping trip out to a state park and explore nature together.
    • Drive up the coast for the weekend and check out a beach town.
    • Even if you can’t get out, plan a relaxing weekend at home with a movie marathon or go explore a part of town you haven’t been to before.
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References

  1. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.
  2. https://psychcentral.com/health/ideas-for-keeping-romance-alive-year-round#how-to-prevent-fizzle
  3. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase/
  4. Luis Congdon. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 13 September 2021.
  5. https://psychcentral.com/health/ideas-for-keeping-romance-alive-year-round
  6. Maya Diamond, MA. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview.
  7. https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/what-happens-when-your-relationship-loses-the-sexual-spark/10929576
  8. Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 18 September 2019.
  9. https://psychcentral.com/health/ideas-for-keeping-romance-alive-year-round
  1. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.
  2. Mary Church, PhD. Research & Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
  3. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase/
  4. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 June 2021.

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This article was written by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising. John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 5,256 times.
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