How to Make Your Crush Regret Rejecting You

Co-authored by Michele Fields and Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA

Last Updated: September 7, 2022 References

Your crush turned you down, and you’re probably feeling heartbroken. Now what? First, give yourself props for bravely asking out your crush. It didn’t work out this time, but keep putting yourself out there. In the meantime, you can show your crush what they’re missing as you get over them. We’ve compiled all the best tips for making your crush regret losing you.

1

Look your best.

Wear your coolest outfits and style yourself before you go out. Try to put your best foot forward any time you’re around your crush. Looking your best will help you feel amazing, and your confidence will shine from within. At the same time, your crush will see how hot you are if other people see you as attractive.^{[1]
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- You might give yourself a “glow up” makeover. Change your hairstyle and get a new outfit. If you wear makeup, watch a few tutorials and debut a new look at school.

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Spend time with your friends—and theirs.

Being social makes you seem like a fun, happy person. Plus, your friends can provide you with much-needed support and encouragement right now.^{[2]
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Research source} Not only that, but hanging with your crush’s friends shows them how cool and fun you are.
- Friends and family also help you feel better after being rejected. You’re well-loved, and they can show you that.^{[3]
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Focus your attention on someone else.

Pursuing someone new shows your crush you’re over them. There’s probably someone amazing at school who’s caught your eye. Why not see if they’d be a good match? Look for a crush who shares the same interests as you and seems like someone who’d be interested dating.^{[4]
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- Meeting new people will also help you move on faster. ^{[5]
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- You can touch, smile, or flirt in general to make the first move.^{[6]
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Be confident.

Act confident so your crush recognizes how amazing you are. Having confidence makes people perceive you as a more interesting, well-rounded person.^{[7]
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Research source} When you see your crush, stand tall so you look self-assured. When you pass them in the hallways at school, make eye contact with them and smile or say “hi” as you walk away. They’ll see that you’re a strong, confident person and may wonder if they made a mistake.
- To boost your confidence, list your best qualities to remind yourself why you’re amazing.^{[8]
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Share pics of you having fun.

Make your crush think you’re happier without them. Participate in hobbies and activities that make you feel great.^{[9]
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- This is the perfect time to try new things. For instance, you might join a new club at school or start learning an instrument.

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Treat your crush as a friend.

Staying friends will help them see what they're missing. Continue to talk to your crush at school or when you run into each other.^{[10]
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Expert Interview. 17 August 2021.} You don't want them to still think you're into them, so let them take the lead when it comes to texting or messaging. Hopefully, they'll realize they missed out on a great catch.

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Spend less time with your crush.

Chasing your crush will only make them pull away more. It's hard to give up on someone you like, but it'll make you feel so much better in the long run. Be strong and distance yourself a little so you can hopefully turn the tables.Stop texting them.^{[11]
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Expert Interview. 17 August 2021.} For now, just hang out with your crush in groups rather than one-on-one.^{[12]
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- Ask your friends to act as buffers until you feel more comfortable being alone with your crush.
- If you have classes with your crush, it's okay to talk to them when you see them.

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Act like your crush on them was no big deal.

Your crush doesn’t need to know that you’re feeling hurt. It’s normal to be sad when your crush rejects you, and you’ll feel better soon.^{[13]
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Research source} In the meantime, act like you’re totally unaffected by what happened. It was barely even a crush.
- If your crush tries to bring up what happened, just brush it off. Say, “Oh, I’ve already forgotten about that,” or “It’s really not a big deal.”

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Flaunt a new crush to make them jealous.

Jealousy makes people crave your attention. It could even make your crush want to impress you.^{[14]
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- Say things like, “He’s the cutest guy I’ve ever met,” or “She’s the funniest girl ever.”

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Pretend like you’re totally over them.

Do your best to let them go, even if it’s hard. You’ve probably fantasized about how amazing your relationship could be with your crush. We all do it, but usually our imagination is much better than reality. Releasing your fantasy of them may help you move on to someone better.^{[15]
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- In some cases, moving on can make your crush wonder if they made a mistake. Maybe they'll start crushing on you!

Expert Q&A

Question

How can you rekindle a relationship after breaking up?

Michele Fields
Matchmaker & Dating Coach
Michele Fields is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Owner of Bon Jour Matchmaking based in Denver, Colorado. With over thirty years of experience, she specializes in helping others meet people and navigate dating and relationships. Michele has created over 300 marriages and has been featured on Denver ABC News, The Rocky Mountain News, Colorado 2 News, Denver Westworld, and The Denver Post.

Michele Fields

Matchmaker & Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Keep in touch with that person regularly. Remind them of the good things and good times in your relationship. You can ask them directly if they would be open to it. Do not play games.
Question

How can you know if a man is not interested?

Michele Fields
Matchmaker & Dating Coach
Michele Fields is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Owner of Bon Jour Matchmaking based in Denver, Colorado. With over thirty years of experience, she specializes in helping others meet people and navigate dating and relationships. Michele has created over 300 marriages and has been featured on Denver ABC News, The Rocky Mountain News, Colorado 2 News, Denver Westworld, and The Denver Post.

Michele Fields

Matchmaker & Dating Coach

Expert Answer

If a man does not make eye contact, he is not interested. If he gives short, curt answers when you ask questions, it may indicate that he is not interested.