How to Let Your Crush Know You Like Them

Co-authored by Eddy Baller

Last Updated: March 6, 2023 References

We've all been head-over-heels for someone once in our lives before, and we all know how difficult it can be to let them know how much we care about them. Here's a helpful guide to let your crush know your true feelings and pluck up the courage to finally spill your guts to them.

Part 1

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Preparing yourself

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Look approachable. This aspect is essential. Smell good; effective hygiene is also a must. Would you like to date someone with smelly armpits?^{[1]
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Dress well. Show good fashion sense, yet stand out from the crowd. For example, your school uniform - wear a jacket or something that makes you stand out or even something like a badge to represent the music you listen to.^{[2]
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- Be sure to wear something you feel is comfortable.
- If you know your crush's favorite smell or color, be sure to wear that.
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Be yourself. Rely on the talents and attributes that you have naturally. If you're a funny person, use that to your advantage. If you're a big sports fan and you know that your crush is as well, all the better. Share those common interests and use them to your advantage.^{[3]
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- Don't trick your crush into thinking you're something else when you're not. If you do, it will all change and he or she will see your true colors in time and may regret being with you.

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Getting to know one another better

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Get to know your crush. You need to know this person not only well enough so that he/she knows you exist but so that you're both comfortable in each other's presence and can talk without feeling shy or embarrassed. Don't rush this part of things––it's better to take your time to cultivate the friendship than to rush and find that your crush isn't all you had hoped.^{[4]
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- Carry conversations with your crush every now and then. Build these up to daily chats, hellos and acknowledgments as much as possible.
- You can have chats in person or even just on Facebook or other social media site.
- Although your crush might like you too, don't make it look like you are easygoing by replying immediately on online chats––play a little hard to get! If your crush doesn't reply straight away then he or she might be talking to someone else who is more important at this point in time; don't push it.
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Get to know the interests of your crush. Sharing common ground allows your crush to see that you're open to their ideas.
- Be sure not to insult their interests unless it's in a teasing way (don't be harsh!).
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Get friendly with your crush's friends or mates. For example, talk to them more, mess around with them, ask them vaguely about your crush, etc. You can try to find out what stuff your crush likes by way of music, games, TV, sports, school activities, and so on.

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Letting your crush know you're interested

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Hang around your crush more. Be funny and happy. Seem like a fun person to have around a lot.
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Give your crush compliments now and again. Say little things such as: "I like your new hairstyle", "I like your smile".^{[5]
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Tell your friends that you like your crush. They might be able to help you spend time around him or her. They may even end up being the source of letting your crush know about your interest but at the very least, let them be supportive and help you to find ways to spend more time with your crush.
- If you have been talking to your crush on Facebook/Twitter/in person, just make sure that you don't tell your friends personal things that your crush talks to you about as he or she might not trust you and won't tell you stuff you want to know if this is found out. Your crush may tell you things he or she is too embarrassed or shy to say to anyone else, so guard that secrecy well.
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Check that your crush isn't already dating or has the hots for someone else. Things might get a bit messy between you and the other person if this is the case or you may just embarrass yourself big time.
- Equally, check that your crush hasn't just had a break up as he or she might just want you to feel good by saying anything or might be stringing you along as a form of rebound revenge.
- Do not tell them you like someone else romantically. This could push them away, and if you tell them your feelings they might think of you as unfaithful having talked about someone else not long before.
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Casually flirt with your crush. When you feel comfortable, remember to smile. Gauge how the little flirting actions are going down. If they're being well received, you're onto something. If not, slow down for a bit.^{[6]
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Pluck up the courage to tell your crush you like them. Sometimes it's better to just let your crush know you like them by telling them how you feel. Just ask them out! The worst they can most likely do is say no.
- If you're feeling shy or afraid, remind yourself that if you don't ask, you could be crushing on each other for the rest of your lives and it'll never get sorted out.
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Ask your crush how he or she feels about you. If he or she feels the same way, you're off onto a new romantic adventure together!
- Deal with rejection as best you can. Don't get crushed by a crush. Sometimes it just isn't meant to be. But stay positive and remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea and this match simply wasn't meant to be.
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Begin dating. Spend time together, keep it cool and fun and realize that there is still a long way to go before you both really know where this is all headed. Most of all, aim to be good friends.

Expert Q&A

Question

What are the signs that a girl is interested in you?

Eddy Baller
Dating Coach
Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.

Eddy Baller

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

She might get a little more physical by touching you on the hand, elbow, or shoulder. She might also take the initiative by inviting you to get coffee together. Even simple things, like looking into your eyes, smiling, and holding eye contact a little longer could be her way of communicating that she's interested.