How to Get Ready for a Date

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Last Updated: August 30, 2022 References Approved

When preparing for a date, it's well-known that you should get showered and put on some nice clothes, but there are other things that you should do as you get ready to make sure everything goes smoothly. Getting ready also involves some coordinating with the other person and double-checking to ensure that you have everything you might need while you're out, like a phone or wallet. By preparing in advance, you can head off to your date with nothing to worry about. That way, you can focus on having a good time and putting your best foot forward to impress the other person!

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Making Sure Everything is Perfect

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Check in with your date. Give your date a call or text him or her to confirm everything the day of. You want to make sure that you're both on the same page about details like time and place you're meeting.
- If you're getting dinner and you're the one picking the restaurant, make sure to be considerate of your date's food preferences. Be sure to ask your date if there are any foods they won't eat, whether due to medical issues, religious beliefs, or personal tastes. For example, if your date is vegetarian, don't take him or her to a steakhouse. Likewise, if your date has a gluten sensitivity, check the menu for wheat-free options before hitting up a pizza place.^{[1]
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Clean up your place. You never know how your date may go, and the two of you may end up back at your place. You don't want your date to think you're a slob, so really take some time to clean if your place is a mess. Pay special attention to your living room, bedroom, and bathroom.^{[2]
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Charge your phone and keep it with you. While you shouldn't be fiddling with it during dinner, your phone is important to have ready just in case.
- If you get lost on the way there or while heading back home, you can use your phone's GPS for help.
- If either you or your date is running late or has to cancel because of a last-minute emergency, you'll need your phone for communication.
- If you want to keep the night going and head to a cafe or bar after your planned destination, you can use your phone to help find the best place nearby.^{[3]
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Make sure you have a way of paying. Even if your date ends up treating you, make sure you have the ability to at least offer to pay. Double-check that your preferred credit card is in your wallet and that your wallet is in your purse or jacket pocket. It's also a good idea to have cash to make splitting the bill easier or just in case the place you're going doesn't take credit cards.^{[4]
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- Have your purse or wallet ready ahead of time. In addition to money, pack gum, breath mints, tampons, pads, condoms, and/or a phone charger.
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Know how to get there. Look up directions at least a few hours ahead of time. You can always us a GPS app on your phone, but you should definitely figure out how long it'll take and what transportation to use in advance.^{[5]
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- In addition to directions, make sure you have the right transportation to get you to your date on time. Unless your date is with a longtime significant other, don't depend on the other person for transportation.
- If you're driving during rush hour or using public transportation, make sure to give yourself extra time and leave early.
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Try to relax. The less nervous you are, the better your date will go. If you've taken care of everything on this list, then you have nothing to worry about. Take the last few minutes before you meet up with your date to chill out.
- If you drink, you might enjoy a glass of wine before your date to help you relax your nerves, but don't go overboard!^{[6]
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- Stay calm through breathing exercises. Take slow, deep breaths, hold them in for a moment, and then exhale slowly.
- Do a quick round of mindful meditation. Look down or close your eyes. Clear your mind of all other thoughts and simply pay attention to your bodily sensations at that moment.
- It might help you feel more confident on your date if you prepare a few things to talk about beforehand, or a couple of interesting questions you might ask your date if the conversation slows down.^{[7]
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Looking Your Best

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Pick out an outfit ahead of time. If you really want to be proactive, figure out what you'll wear a few days before your date. It's best to do this sooner rather than later to keep from rushing around at the last minute to find the perfect shirt.
- What you'll wear will come down to your personal tastes and what type of date you're going to. For example, if the date is at a classy restaurant, you might wear a suit or a nice dress. If you were going to the beach, you'd want to wear a swimsuit and a t-shirt or cover-up.
- Above all, make sure that whatever you are wearing is comfortable. While looking nice should also be a priority, comfort will go a long way to help you relax and feel confident.
- Set everything aside and make sure to keep it clean. If you don't have pets, lay it out on your bed while you get ready. If you do have a cat or a dog who may take a nap on your clothes, hang them up in a specific place. Get dressed after showering.^{[8]
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Take a shower or bath. You want to be nice and clean to impress your date. Use mildly-scented shampoo, conditioner, and soap. Be sure to wash your face thoroughly without irritating the skin. Try to be a little more diligent cleaning yourself than you usually are.^{[9]
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- If you have a hair type that needs less frequent washing, you don't necessarily have to wash it right before a date. Just make sure it looks and smells clean.
- If you'll be going on the date after work, plan to meet later so you'll have time to go home, shower, and get ready. First impressions are really important, and that will give you time to think about how you want to present yourself.^{[10]
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Shave or trim if necessary. After you've gotten yourself nice and squeaky clean, take some time to manage your facial and body hair before your date.
- If you have a beard, make sure it's trimmed to perfection.
- If your date may get intimate, you might want to groom your pubic area.
- If you take pride in your perfectly-shaped eyebrows, give them a quick check and pluck out any stray hairs you may find.
- If you have nose and/or ear hair, be sure to pluck or trim those, too.^{[11]
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Brush your teeth. You'll be spending a lot of time talking to (and possibly kissing) your date, so be considerate and get your mouth clean. You don't want to show up with bad breath.^{[12]
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- Take two minutes to brush your teeth.
- Floss to make sure you don't have any embarrassing food particles stuck between your teeth.
- Swish with a little mouthwash for extra-fresh breath.
- Don't forget to bring some gum or breath mints for after you eat.
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Dry and/or style your hair. If you washed your hair, be sure it's dry before you leave. You don't want to show up for your date with wet, messy hair.
- Since a date is a type of special occasion, consider spicing up your look by styling your hair a little different than usual. For example, if you usually keep your long hair up, wear it down. If you usually wear it down, try styling it into a simple but elegant updo.
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Do your makeup if you want. Many people, especially girls, wear makeup when going out. Just like your outfit, what makeup you put on will depend on the type of date and the look you're going for.
- For a casual date, you may want to stick to more natural-looking makeup.
- For a fancy dinner, try bold makeup that incorporates both smoky eyes and red lips.
- Don't forget that guys can wear makeup, too. Most men who wear makeup stick to the natural "no makeup" look.
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Wear minimal fragrance. Be mindful when selecting products with strong scents. This is especially important when dating someone new, as you won't be sure of their tastes and sensitivities. You need to walk a fine line between smelling nice and noxious.
- Don't bathe yourself in perfume, cologne, or body spray. Even a mild fragrance can be overpowering when used in large amounts. Instead, either lightly spritz it on or spray some in front of you and quickly walk through the mist.^{[13]
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- Don't forget to wear deodorant. Even if you're not a fan of fragrances, deodorant is a must. You may be nervous and sweat more than usual on a date, so be sure to apply some right before you go out.

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How should I get ready for a date as a woman?

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Take a shower or a hot bath, and if you drink, have a glass of wine. Think about what you want to wear, and think about how you're going to present yourself. Also, don't go to a date straight from work—give yourself time to go home and get ready so you can get out of "work mode."

Warnings

Don't make any drastic changes to your appearance. You should not try to "improve" your appearance in any serious way on the eve of a date. If you met on social networks or on a dating site, and your partner saw you only in a photo or video, then he expects to see the picture that attracted him.

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Don't make an abrupt change in hairstyle or hair color. It just might be overkill for a first date. Let the person get to know you before presenting yourself as a "completely different person".

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Don't do harsh facial procedures. Sometimes the pursuit of the "best face" right before a date makes all the preparations go nay.

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