There’s no doubt about it: breakups are tough. But they can get even messier when your ex hits you up to say he misses you. Before you reply, take a look at these responses and pick one that captures your true feelings. With a few well-placed words, you can let your ex know what you really think about him (and whether or not you miss him, too).

4

“I’m in a relationship.”

10

“I miss you too.”

  1. Only choose this one if you’d like to get back together. Before you reply, think long and hard about why the relationship ended and what it might look like in the future. If you think you and your ex have a real shot again, then give him the reply that he probably wants to hear.[10]
    • If you’re getting a late night or drunk text, now’s not the time to discuss your relationship. If your ex reaches out in the middle of the day and wants to talk, though, you can be open to a discussion with him.
    • Instead of immediately asking for the relationship back, look for an opportunity to go on a date first.

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    What do you do if your ex wants to meet up?
    Connell Barrett
    Connell Barrett
    Dating Coach
    Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."
    Connell Barrett
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    Let them clearly, firmly, and politely know that you aren't interested in spending time with them. You might say "I've been really busy and it's not a good time for me. Thanks for asking, though!"
Advertisement

About This Article

Connell Barrett
Co-authored by:
Dating Coach
This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach." This article has been viewed 58,876 times.
2 votes - 50%
Co-authors: 4
Updated: May 26, 2022
Views: 58,876
Advertisement