What Does It Mean when Someone Holds Your Face While Kissing?

Co-authored by Lisa Shield and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 References

If there’s someone in your life who cups your face while kissing you, you might be wondering what it means. While there’s no way to be sure without asking them, there are a few things you can read into when it comes to your partner’s feelings for you. Look through this list to see what your date might be telling you when they kiss you while holding your face (don’t worry—it’s probably a good thing!).

1

They really like kissing you.

Holding your face is almost always a good sign. If you and your partner are making out and they suddenly reach their hands up to cup your face, they’re probably having a good time. You can take it as a compliment and return the favor.^{[1]
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- They also might stroke your cheek or grab the back of your head. These are all good signs!

2

They have strong feelings for you.

Cupping someone’s face is pretty intimate. Most people don’t do this while kissing unless they really like someone. If you 2 are still getting to know each other, them holding your face is a good sign that things are progressing.^{[2]
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- It also shows that they feel more comfortable around you.

3

They want to know if you’re into them.

They could be gauging your reaction as they hold your face. If you lean into their hand and kiss them back passionately, they’ll most likely get the message that you like them a lot. If you stay stiff and pull away quickly, they might think that you aren’t really feeling it.^{[3]
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- You could even rub your partner’s body with your hands to really show them that you like them.

4

They want to look into your eyes.

Maybe they break away after kissing just to hold eye contact. If they still have their hand on your face, they might want to share a connection with you. Follow their lead and respond with passion (if you want to, of course).^{[4]
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- Your partner also might grab your face and look you in the eyes right before a passionate kiss.

5

They want to feel like it’s just the 2 of you.

Have you ever been kissed and the whole world just melts away? A gentle hand on your cheek can help the kiss transport you there. If you’re feeling stressed or you’ve had a bad week, your partner might hold your face while kissing to get you to focus on the kiss and nothing else.^{[5]
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- They also might do this if you 2 are kissing in public.

6

They are stunned by your beauty.

It’s like they’re checking to make sure you’re really real. If someone strokes your face while you 2 are kissing, they might be giving you a compliment. A gentle touch or a light flutter probably means you’ve shocked them by being so gorgeous.^{[6]
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- Of course, they might just tell you how pretty you are, too.

7

They’re being romantic.

They might be switching it up to woo you. Kissing is fun, but the same old thing can get boring after a while. If your partner starts holding your face while kissing and they never used to, it might be a way to make you feel special.^{[7]
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- Again, this is a good sign: anything your partner does to try and make you feel good is a step in the right direction.

8

They’ve missed kissing you.

Maybe you’ve been away for a while and couldn’t see each other. If the first kiss after you get back together involves them holding your face, they’re probably trying to say that they’re glad you’re back. They might also break away and look into your eyes with a big smile on their face.^{[8]
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- They might hold your face with both hands, signaling that they don’t want to let you go.

9

They want you to kiss them back (passionately).

A hand on the face is a gentle way of getting you to focus. Between kids, jobs, and responsibilities, it can be easy to ignore the passion in our relationships. If you and your partner haven’t been intimate for a while, they could be signaling that they’re trying to reconnect with you.^{[9]
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- You shouldn’t take this as an attack—your partner switching up their kissing style is a way to draw you back in, not push you away.

10

They want to take things up a notch.

Holding your face could mean they want to progress physically. If you 2 are getting hot and heavy and they all of the sudden hold your face, it’s another way of feeling close and intimate. While you should always get your partner’s consent before anything physical, a hand on the face while kissing is a good sign that things are headed that way.^{[10]
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- Some people consider a hand on the face to be more intimate than a hand on your body.