15+ Interesting Topics for When You Talk to a Girl on the Phone

Co-authored by John Keegan and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: June 16, 2022 References

Talking to a girl on the phone is a fun, casual way to get to know her. But when the conversation pauses, it can be tough to think of something new to talk about on the spot. In this article, we’ve listed out lots of different conversation topics that you can keep in your back pocket for your next phone call with a girl.

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What she likes to do for fun

Hobbies and sports are always fun to talk about. If you already know what she likes to do on the weekends, you can ask about it to see if she’s done anything cool lately. If you don’t know what she likes to do for fun, you can simply ask what she got up to last weekend to start the conversation. Then, talk about your own hobbies, too. Try something like:^{[1]
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- “Did you have a soccer game yesterday?”
- “What did you do last weekend?”
- “Did you do any photography last weekend?”

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Pets and animals

If she’s an animal lover, ask her about her pets. If she doesn’t own any pets right now, you can see what kind of animal she’d like to own in the future or if she plans to get a pet anytime soon. Feel free to chime in with stories about your own pets, too! Say something like:^{[2]
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- “How’s your dog Rosco doing?”
- “Are you thinking about getting a cat soon?”
- “If you could own any animal in the world, what would it be?”

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Music and podcasts

Swap your recommendations and fun things you’ve been listening to. If you’re both into live music, you could also talk about any shows or concerts you’ve been to lately. See what she’s been listening to and ask her to send you a playlist if you need any recommendations. Try something like:^{[3]
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- “What song have you been playing on repeat lately?”
- “Have you been to any good shows lately?”
- “What’s your favorite podcast right now?”

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Books and authors

If she’s a reader, she might want to tell you about her latest read. Even if she’s not, you can talk about your favorite books you’ve ever read or which books you actually enjoyed reading in school. You can also tell her about your favorite author or see if she has any reading recommendations for you. You could say something like:^{[4]
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- “I read the best horror novel the other day. It actually scared me!”
- “What have you been reading lately?”
- “What’s your favorite book of all time?”

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Movies and TV shows

If you have similar tastes in media, you can chat about it over the phone. Ask her about the last movie she’s watched or if she caught the latest episode of a popular show. Or, you can see if she has any recommendations for you. This is a great way to bond over your similar interests. You can say something like:^{[5]
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- “I really want to watch a scary movie tonight. Any recommendations?”
- “What’s your top 10 movie list?”
- “What have you been watching lately?”

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Funny stories

What’s something silly that happened to you today? If you encountered any goofy shenanigans, you can tell her all about them to make her giggle. Then, she can share a funny story of her own. You can also share stories from your past, like funny childhood memories.^{[6]
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- “I was walking into school this morning and I wasn’t watching where I was going. I ran straight into a pole! It was so funny, my friends were cracking up.”
- “My dog tried to make friends with a cat today on our walk—except instead of calmly walking up to it, she ran at it full speed! Needless to say, the cat didn’t really appreciate that.”

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Hidden talents

If you have any fun party tricks, now’s the time to talk about them. You can regale her with stories about your double jointed elbows, your ability to play any TV theme song on the piano, or your magic tricks that you learned in childhood. You can also ask her if she has any silly talents that she likes to pull out to impress people. Say something like:^{[8]
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- “If I really concentrate, I can fold my tongue over itself twice! What’s your hidden talent?”
- “I was super into magic as a kid, and I love to pull out my card tricks at parties.”
- “No one really knows this, but I’m actually super flexible. I can do the splits without even warming up first.”

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Her childhood

Dive a little deeper into her personality by asking about her past. This is a great way to get to know someone and learn a little more about her.^{[9]
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- “Did you like growing up in Boston?”
- “How was it growing up with 2 brothers in the house?”
- “Were you close to your parents growing up?”

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Plans for the weekend

This is a light topic that you can ask at any point. See if she has any fun plans for the weekend, then compare what you’re doing with what she’s doing. If you want to get a little flirty, now might be a good time to ask her to hang out. Try something like:^{[11]
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- “What are you doing Friday night?”
- “Are you free on Saturday? I was thinking of going to the beach.”
- “Any fun plans this weekend? The weather’s going to be so nice.”

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Dream homes or vacations

Fantasize about where you’d be right now with unlimited money. This fun hypothetical scenario can tell you more about her hopes and dreams. You can talk about where you’d like to live in the future or where you want to vacation someday when you’re both rich, as discussing future plans is always fun!^{[13]
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- “If money was no issue, where would you travel to right now?”
- “If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?”
- “Where do you see yourself living in 10 years?”

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Embarrassing moments

If you feel close to her, you can share a few funny or embarrassing stories. Not everyone wants to trade embarrassing moments, so don’t pressure her to share anything back. However, if you have something silly to say, you can make her laugh and keep her on the phone longer.^{[15]
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- “When I was a kid, I accidentally called my teacher Mom. It was so embarrassing—the whole class laughed at me!”
- “I totally tripped and fell in gym class the other day. We were running the mile and the next thing I knew, I was on the ground!”

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Her friends and family

Start the conversation off light by asking about her loved ones. If you’re close with her, you might ask specific questions about her parents, her siblings, or her best friends. If you don’t know her quite that well yet, simply ask about her friends and family in general to learn more about who she spends her time with. You could ask questions like:^{[17]
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- “How are your parents doing?”
- “Are you close with your siblings?”
- “Who is your best friend in the whole world?”

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Hypothetical scenarios

A rousing game of “Would You Rather?” is a fun way to pass the time. If you can’t think of anything else to say, try throwing out a few hypothetical scenarios. Try to make them as ridiculous as possible to make the girl you’re talking to laugh or chuckle. You could even have a fun debate as you talk about your answers. Try something like:^{[18]
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- “Would you rather fight 10 duck-sized horses or 1 horse-sized duck?”
- “Would you rather eat pineapple on pizza forever or never have pizza again?”
- “If you were on a stranded island, would you rather have unlimited books to read or unlimited TV shows to watch?”

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Dreams and sleepwalking

Ask her about the craziest dream she’s ever had. Then, you can tell her about the weirdest thing your brain has ever come up with while you slept. If either of you sleepwalk, you can tell a funny story about waking up in your living room or outside instead of your bed. Say something like:^{[19]
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- “What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had? Mine was when I dreamt I could fly so I flew to the moon.”
- “Do you ever sleepwalk? I’ve only done it once or twice, but man it’s weird to wake up standing in front of the fridge!”

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Future date ideas

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- “Have you ever been to the rose garden? I think the flowers are blooming right now.”
- “I was thinking we could go to that new restaurant downtown next week.”
- “What are your plans this weekend? Want to take a day trip to the coast?”

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Unpopular opinions

Talk about an opinion you have that not a lot of people share. You might hate a popular TV show, think a certain food is gross, or not think a celebrity is funny. Get the conversation started by asking her about her unpopular opinions, then dive into your own. Say something like:^{[22]
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- “What’s a movie that everyone loves but you hate?”
- “Which popular TV show can you just not get into?”
- “Are there any popular foods that you can’t stand?”

Expert Q&A

Question

Is it better to call or text a girl?

Patti Novak Williams
Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach
Patti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.”

Patti Novak Williams

Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Certainly don't text all the time. That's a no-no, first five dates, people should do bare minimum texting, but even phone chatting. Make that phone call after you've met her once, you liked her, call her, and ask her out for dinner. I'm assuming it's reciprocal, and you go out for a second date. Then you could text three days later and just say, “Hey, woke up thinking about you. I hope you're having a great day. Let's touch base over the weekend.” It should not be this constant worry of communicating over the phone.