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Masturbation is a normal and natural activity, but maybe reliance on porn just doesn't fit into the lifestyle you want. Everyone has unique reasons for stopping their consumption of pornography, and each of these is valid. Perhaps you feel you engage in these habits more than you'd like, or maybe they interfere with your social, professional, or romantic life. Whatever the case is, we're here to support you in your journey. We know it will take time, patience, and perseverance, so we'll show you how to quit in stages. Read on to learn how to resist porn so you can enjoy a life balance that's right for you.
Things You Should Know
- Install porn blockers to avoid adult content so you're less tempted to masturbate.
- Meditate to destress and combat intrusive thoughts that relate to pornography.
- Join a support group for a judgement-free zone to talk about struggles with porn.
- Stay active, hang out with friends, pick up hobbies to stay busy and avoid porn.
Steps
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QuestionHow can I stop watching pornography?Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSWKelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. She is the author of “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” and the award-winning and best-selling book “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and is a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.
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- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7145784/
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- ↑ https://extension.usu.edu/mentalhealth/articles/how-hobbies-improve-mental-health
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- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
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- ↑ https://rewardfoundation.org/quitting-porn/three-step-recovery-model/
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/should-i-tell-my-partner-i-masturbate
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About This Article
While you may feel guilty about masturbating, know that it’s normal and you should only stop if it has become harmful. If you’ve decided that it’s best to quit porn and masturbation, replace those habits with another activity. For example, try drawing instead of masturbating and watch a normal TV show with a friend instead of watching porn. Since it’s easier to distract yourself with something you’re interested in, choose fun hobbies like playing sports or learning how to play an instrument. It’s hard to quit a habit, so make things easier on yourself by creating a timeline to gradually quit. For instance, you can start with masturbating no more than once a day for one week and then eventually bring it down to 4 times the next week and so on. For more advice, including how to find pleasure in other things besides porn and masturbation, read on!
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