How to Make a Girl at School Like You

Last Updated: May 21, 2022

Dating at school can be confusing and complicated, especially when you have a crush on someone. While you can't force someone to be interested in dating you, there are many ways you can try to impress girls and get them to notice you.

Method 1

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Talking to Girls

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Make eye contact. Interact with the girl you have a crush on. ^{[1]
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- Say "hello" when you see her at school and at extracurricular activities.
- If you never talked to the girl before, just find the courage to simply even smile at her, and maybe later say hello, that will make it pretty clear to her.
- If you never acknowledge the girl you like, she will never know you have a crush on her.
- Don't be too shy when you try to talk to her. Confidence is a very attractive quality.
- Don't stare at her for too long. This will make a lot of girls uneasy and wonder what's wrong with them.
- When you introduce yourself, keep your body language open and vibrant. Don't slouch, look away or mumble.
- Keep your initial conversations light, casual, and fun. You don't want to come on too strong at first.^{[2]
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Use texting and social media to interact with the girl you like. Chances are she spends some time on Facebook or Twitter. Initiate an online or text conversation by saying:
- "Hey, how are you?"
- "What are you up to?"
- Comment on the photos on her page. If she has a pet, ask her about it. If you see her playing a sport, this is something you can try to drum up a conversation about.
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Compliment your crush early in the conversation. Girls like to hear nice things about themselves.
- Give her friendly compliments. Don't always comment on her looks.
- Girls don't want to get attention for their appearance alone. If she is good at something, tell her!
- To compliment a girl you could always say "I noticed you are a great dancer." or "I like what you said in history class today. I never thought of things in that way."
- If she is an athlete, compliment her on her last game: "Hey, you were awesome at last weekends soccer game".
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Talk to her during lunch or after school activities. Don't be afraid to share things about yourself so she can get to know you.
- Ask questions about her family, her interests, or her classes at school.
- During the conversation, make eye contact and affirm that you are listening. Say things like "I think that's great" or "That's really cool. I'd like to know more about that."
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Get to know the girl you like. Become involved in some of the same activities.^{[3]
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- Showing an interest in things she likes will allow you to spend more time with your crush.
- Taking an interest in school activities she likes will help you get to know her better. This will show her you take an interest in what she likes.
- For example, offer to help out with her school organizations charity drive or get involved in the same theater group.
- To initiate this conversation you could say something like "I noticed you are involved with ______. I'm really good at _____ and I would like to help out."
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Avoid talking endlessly about yourself. Girls won't be impressed if they think you are bragging.
- Ask her questions about things she likes to do, her family, pets, and school.
- You can interject with facts and ideas of your own and about yourself.
- Always steer the conversation back to her.

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Impressing Girls At School

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Do nice things for the girl you like. Get to know her favorite things and surprise her with them.^{[4]
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- If she has a favorite flower, don't buy it for her until you have developed a relationship with her.
- Offer to carry her heavy backpack or books to class.
- Bring her favorite treat or snack to school or other activity.
- Help out with a school event she is involved in.
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Be a good friend. Don't spread or listen to gossip about the girl you like.^{[5]
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- Gossip is a hard thing to deal with in high school, especially for girls.
- If someone says something bad about the girl you like, defend her.
- Don't let your friends spread rumors or gossip about her social group.
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Ask her out on a date. Offer to take her to see a movie she likes or an activity she will enjoy.
- After you have flirted with a girl for awhile, you can try to ask her out on a date.
- Simply ask<"Hey I am going for______on Saturday,would You like to come?", This will show her that even if she does not come, you are going to go. Always be confident in whatever you do.
- If you know she has expressed an interest in going to a specific event, offer to take her. Say "I heard you wanted to go to the dance on Friday. I would like to take you, if you still want to go."
- Make your offer for a date about her and her interests.
- Don't ask forcefully or be rude if she turns you down.
- It doesn't have to be an expensive activity or date. The importance of a date is to be able to spend time together one on one.
- If you or the girl you like is shy at first, try suggesting a double or group date to take the pressure off.
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Avoid becoming obsessed with your crush. This is a huge turn-off.
- Give her some space. Don't always hang around her.
- Don't follow her around school or extracurricular activities. Let your interactions flow naturally and don't force them.
- Don't be too overly attentive. If she has said she isn't interested, don't continue to pester a girl.
- Avoid touching or trying to kiss a girl without her permission. You don't want to make her feel awkward or uncomfortable.^{[6]
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Dress nicely. Whenever you see your crush, you will want to look your best. ^{[7]
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- Whatever your personal style is, make sure your clothes are clean and not wrinkled.
- Make sure your appearance is tidy.
- Make sure you are practicing daily hygiene—showering, using deodorant, brushing your teeth, etc.
- Wearing nice clothes will make you appear more confident in yourself.

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Using Your Own Personality To Get Noticed

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Be yourself. Don't be afraid to have your own personality and self-confidence. Girls like guys who are genuine, sincere, and honest.^{[8]
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- Girls like guys who are comfortable with themselves and have a lot of self confidence.
- If you are creative, get involved with a music group, art group, or theater. You will meet, and hopefully attract, girls who have similar interests and talents.
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Develop your own interests. Stay involved in your sports, arts, or school activities even when you are interested in chasing a girl.^{[9]
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- Don't spend 100% of your time thinking about the girl you like or trying to impress her.
- You will need balance in your life. Keep yourself occupied with your own hobbies in the meantime.
- Hopefully, your crush will have some of the same interests. Developing these can help you spend more time with her.
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Maintain your own friendships. A guy who has a good group of close friends will be attractive to girls.^{[10]
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- This can be a good way to meet girls through your own social group.
- Invite the girl you are interested in to participate in activities with you and your friends.
- Friendships are important. Make sure that once you start dating a girl, you don't neglect your friends.
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Stay focused on school work. You don't want your grades to slide because you are distracted by trying to make a girl like you.^{[11]
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- A guy with good grades will be more attractive to girls than a guy who is failing all of his classes.
- Participate in your classes. Girls will notice this if you are confident in class.
- If you aren't doing well in a class, you could ask a girl for help if it's a subject she is good at.Do not feel guilty .

Community Q&A

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Is there a way to attract a girl without talking to her?

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You may be able to get her attention by dressing and looking your best, making eye contact with her and smiling, and using friendly, confident body language. For example, stand tall and keep your head up, and let your arms hang naturally or put your hands in your pockets instead of crossing your arms. Show her you’re a good catch by being kind and respectful to those around you. However, if you want to get to know her, you will have to talk to her eventually!
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How can I tell if a girl likes me?

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She may smile and make eye contact with you, laugh a lot, and find excuses to touch you or be close to you. The best way to know for sure is to ask her directly, but you can also ask her friends if they know how she feels about you.
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What’s a good way to make a girl laugh?

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Every girl has a different sense of humor, so what’s hilarious to one girl might leave another one cold. Take some time to get to know what she finds funny. She might enjoy a funny meme or video, your celebrity impressions might crack her up, or maybe she’s more of a corny dad joke type of girl.