So, you’ve been kissing your boyfriend or girlfriend for a while, but you really want to take it up a level. If you want to elevate your kissing game and really leave their head spinning, we’ve got you covered. There are so many different ways to do this, and you can pick and choose the moves that feel right for you and your kissing style. The key here is to listen to your partner and take cues from their body language. We’ll show you how!

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Close your eyes as you lock lips.

  1. Slowly start closing your eyes as your lips are about to touch. Pucker your lips out a bit and slowly close your eyes so that they shut right when your lips touch. Keep your lips soft and don’t push too hard against your partner.[3]
    • Take cues from your partner here. If they open their mouth a bit, open your mouth, too![4]
    • If they pull away a bit as soon as you lock lips, they probably aren’t in the mood for some passionate kissing, so don’t force it.
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Pull your partner in close to you.

  1. The closer you two are, the more intimate the kiss will be. Put one hand on their back and gently close in. If your partner is shorter than you, you can put a hand over their shoulder instead and lean in that way.[7]
    • Bringing your bodies together signals that you’re so into them that you just can’t stand not being close!
    • You can pull them against you before you actually start kissing if you want a more sexually charged energy.
    • If they pull away or reposition themselves so that there’s a little bit of space against you, don’t force it. Let them respond to what you’re doing so that they’re comfortable, too!
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Hold your partner’s head or back.

  1. This will heighten the emotional energy of your kiss. Incorporating both of your arms is essential to making your partner feel like you just can’t control your impulse to be close to them. You can use your free arm to support your partner’s head by resting your palm against the cheek, or against the back of their head. Alternatively, you can put your hand on their upper back or shoulder. Just do what feels natural![8]
    • You can also put your hand on their upper chest if you two are kissing at a slight angle.
    • If your partner is kind of swept off of their feet and surprised, they may not put both of their hands on you. If one of their hands is free, you might hold it tight.
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Keep your hands moving (slowly).

  1. Staying in one position can make a kiss feel too stiff and cold. However, if you move your hands too quickly, it can make it difficult for your partner to settle into the kiss. Calmly reposition your hands so that you engage all of your partner’s senses.[9]
    • You could run your fingers through their hair a bit and give them a (very gentle) hair tug for a super hot option.
    • For something cuter, you might brush their hair back out of their face.
    • Holding a hand against their check or gently squeezing their shoulder can make them feel supported and close to you.
    • You can also move both of your hands to their lower back and pull them up closer to you. This is an especially sexy option if your partner is shorter than you.
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Let your partner guide things.

  1. Listening to your partner’s body language is key. If they lean in even further when you embrace them, it’s a cue that they’re super in for a potential make out session. If they coo a little bit but don’t lean in, keep doing what you’re doing! If they pull back after a few seconds, they probably don’t want to keep going so it may be time to wind down.[10]
    • It can be hard to remember if you’re super into your partner in the moment, but passion requires two people! Don’t push them to do something they aren’t enjoying.
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Explore gently with your tongue.

  1. Introducing your tongue will turn the heat up a notch. A passionate French kiss is a super intimate way of moving from romantic to hot. If your partner opens their mouth a bit and they seem into it, start moving your tongue around in their mouth. Explore gently and softly. Less is more with a French kiss, so let your partner set the tone.[11] [12]
    • Don’t push or stiffen your tongue. Keep it soft, flexible, and don’t shove it too deep down your partner’s throat.[13]
    • You don’t need to use tongue at all if you aren’t ready.
    • Always try to match your partner during the kiss so things aren't unbalanced.[14]
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Try sucking their lip for a moment.

  1. Pausing a French kiss for a little lip play can be super hot. If you’ve been kissing for more than 5-10 seconds, variation can keep things hot and heavy. When the position feels natural, move your lips down a bit so that their bottom lip is in the middle of your lips and give it a very gentle pull. Release their lip after a second or so and go back to your normal kissing.[15]
    • This may be a bit of an odd sensation for them (in a good way) if they’ve never done this before, so don’t suck hard like you’re pulling on a straw.
    • If you have done this before and things are trending way more to the sexy side than the romantic side, gentle, extremely light bite may really get your partner going!
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Pause between kisses if you keep going.

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Whisper in their ear for a memorable finish.

  1. You could say something sweet to make the hair on their neck stand up. Leave them with something to think about by whispering something sexy or romantic into their ear as you’re pulling away from one another. You might let them know how much they mean to you, or say something a little suggestive to drive them wild. Either way, it will punctuate the kiss and drive them wild.[18] You might say:
    • “You drive me crazy, you know that?”
    • “You’re the light of my life.”
    • “You have no idea how bad I want you.”
    • Less is more here. You don’t want to ramble for too long after a passionate kiss!

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    What should you not do while kissing?
    Eddy Baller
    Eddy Baller
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    Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
    Eddy Baller
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    Expert Answer
    Try not to bump into each other during the kiss. You want your lips to lock together, not be doing their own things.
  • Question
    What if I like the girl but I don’t know if she likes me? I think it’s kind of awkward. I have three crushes.
    wikiHow Staff Editor
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    This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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    It's okay to have more than one crush! But if you're going to pursue a girl, it's probably best to focus on the one you like the best. If you don't know if she likes you, try flirting with her a bit. You might give her compliment or try gently brushing against her in the hall. If she makes a lot of eye contact, she compliments you back, or she goes out of her way to be around you, she probably likes you.
  • Question
    Is It ok if I don't make the first move if I'm the guy?
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    Yes, that's totally fine. You shouldn't feel compelled to make the first move if you aren't comfortable with that, and it doesn't matter whether a guy or girl goes first. Just keep in mind, if she's not confident enough to make the first move, you may end up in a situation where nobody does anything!

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A long, passionate kiss is a great way to express your emotion and desire with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Hold your partner close as you kiss them by wrapping your arms around their shoulders or waist to show that you want to kiss them deeply. You can also move your hands around your partner’s body during the kiss to convey your affection. For example, you can move your hands from their face to the back of their neck. Adjusting how you kiss your partner as you make out can also help to build the passion. Try a short burst of light kisses before you move into a French kiss. For more tips on how to have a long, passionate kiss with your boyfriend or girlfriend, like how to make the kiss last, read on!

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