How to Be the Nice Girl

Co-authored by Tami Claytor

Last Updated: August 9, 2021 Approved

What does it mean to be the nice girl? In many ways, it's up to you but at its most basic, it's about being pleasant to be around, friendly toward others, considerate of people and unwilling to participate in mean-spirited gossip. A nice girl is someone people consider approachable and reliable.

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Being Nice

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Keep up the positive attitude. Always aim to make a good impression on other people by being upbeat and having something positive to bring to the conversation. This will help others to think of you as a nice person and not as another one of those mean girls who trash talk or give them a hard time.
- Have kind words to say to others. Be ready to compliment people on the good things you notice about them, even if it's just one small thing.^{[1]
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Smile often. People enjoy being around someone who is happy more than someone who acts like the world is ending.

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Laugh a lot. For one thing, it feels good, and for another, it makes others feel good. However, avoid laughing at others though, unless they’ve told a joke you found funny.
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Do well in school. Pay attention in class and be on good terms with your teachers.
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Do more listening than talking. People like those who are quieter and have respect for what another person has to say.^{[2]
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Tami Claytor
Etiquette Coach
Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.}

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Interacting with Others

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Meet new friends. Especially befriend the other nice people that you meet. Make friends with people who are mostly honest and friendly, or who stick up for other people in a friendly way.
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Talk to your peers at lunch and recesses/break time. Make friends with everyone you possibly can.
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Be nice to everyone. Everyone wants to be wanted, and you are making sure that they are wanted.^{[3]
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Expert Source

Tami Claytor
Etiquette Coach
Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.}
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Join after school or lunch time clubs. This way, more people will get to know you for who you really are.
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Help other people with their problems. For example, if someone needs help with their homework, help them out on a few problems, or if someone fell, help them with standing up again if they need it.

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Coping with Challenges

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Remember who you are. If somebody is mean to you, give yourself a minute to cool off, don't go right ahead and punch them. This will give a bad impression on your side.
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Kill others with kindness. If someone is mean to you, send them a gift or a card for no reason or speak up for them in class or in the school grounds. They will be so dumbfounded that they will likely realize how mean they have been.
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Avoid getting sucked in. If somebody you know, like a friend, is trash talking somebody else, don't be afraid to step forward and say "Hey I don't think you should be talking about that person that way" or "Why don't we let this drop, it wasn't a big deal anyway". Stopping mean-spirited gossip is a role a nice person will always take on.
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Realize who your real friends really are. If your friends support you in any way they can or always is nice to you, you know they are your true friends. But if somebody is making you choose sides or is sucking you into drama, they aren't your real friend.

Warnings

Some people may tease you. Just ignore them. As long as you are happy and have friends, nothing else really matters.

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