How to Be a Sweet, Fun Girl

Stay clean. Shower or bathe often. Having clean skin and gently-washed hair will bring out your natural beauty.

• Once you hit puberty, it's good to wash your face every morning, if you can. Use a facial soap or wipe that won't clog your pores.
• After bathing, apply deodorant to help you stay fresh. If one type of deodorant doesn't work, try another kind.

Follow your own personal style. Wear comfortable clothes that make you smile. If you wear things that help you express yourself and feel confident, your attitude will make you more attractive.

• Don't feel like you have to blend in, or wear brand-name or popular clothes. It's okay to look different.

Try your best at school. Get involved in a club or support a cause. Being a brainy babe is great, as you are on the right track to a beautiful future.

• Remember that few people are good at something on the first try. If you don't do well at something, it's probably because you don't have enough practice! Try again. Ask for help if you need it.
• Avoid bragging about your achievements. People tend to feel upset if they start comparing themselves to others too much. While you should be honest if people ask, don't rub their noses in it.

Love who you are! You don't have to be a perfect girl, but you do need to love who you are. Just like your favorite characters in stories, you'll have flaws, but you're also growing and doing your best. If you struggle with low self esteem, you can borrow your confidence from your favorite celebrity, or God, if that is what you believe in.

• If you have low self esteem, try treating yourself the same way you'd treat a good friend. If you're struggling, ask yourself "What would I say to a friend who was struggling this way?"
• If you really struggle with loving yourself, talk to someone, like a guidance counselor or a trusted adult. And if you think you're showing signs of an illness like depression, see a doctor as soon as you can.

Take good care of your body and mind. It's hard to be fun and sweet if you're feeling exhausted, too stressed, or burned out. Make time to do something fun or restorative (whatever that means to you) each day. If you don't feel right, pay attention to that feeling, and see how you could help yourself feel better. You have to take care of yourself before you are ready to be a good helper to others.

• You can't pour from an empty cup. Similarly, you can't be very helpful to other people if you are feeling drained. Spend time on self care, and say "no" to things if you don't have the energy for them. Fulfill your basic needs first. You can go back to helping others once you're feeling balanced and at peace.
• Try to spend less time on things that drag you down (like reading the news, hanging out with a mean friend, or whatever bothers you). If you can't avoid doing the stressful thing, then plan something that cheers you up afterwards.
• If something is really stressing you out, ask for help. A parent or other trusted adult can help you deal with the problem. Suffering in silence will only make it worse.