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This article was co-authored by Suzanna Mathews. Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.
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Do you want to ask someone out, but didn't have the guts to do it in person? This is how you ask out a boy/girl/significant other over the phone!
Steps
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1Check that the person you're calling does not already have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Skip this step if the person you are calling is your boyfriend/girlfriend.
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2Know what you are saying. More often than not, a person will call another without knowing what to say.If you are unprepared, then you could create an awkward silence. Avoid this by writing out what you're going to say and rehearsing. (See Tips.) Still act natural though!Advertisement
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3Be specific. Asking a person out without knowing where to go will hurt you when the day comes and make you less confident. If it is a movie or a concert then mention the time as well.
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4Act Casual. Start up a conversation first. Once you feel comfortable talking to the person, go ahead and start with your rehearsed conversation.
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5Avoid the dreaded awkward silence. If there is a silence longer than fifteen seconds *Don't count, of course*, then say "It's OK if you don't want to..." or "You don't have to tell me now."
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6Accept rejection. If the person on the other side says no, but does want to go out with you some other time, try again! Tell the person that you understand. Don't get angry, rude or sullen.
- If they're not interested, keep your response really casual and chill. Say something like, "Oh, well, you know, I really value our friendship and I hope I haven't done anything to jeopardize that. And so let's just go back to being friends just like we were before." Or, "Oh, that's a bummer. Good chatting with you, though."[1]
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7Say "Thank you" if he/she does say yes. Congratulations! You have just asked a person out over the phone.
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Warnings
- If you're rejected, don't let up, but also loosen up a little. They may not like you, but they may be doubtful about their feelings about you.⧼thumbs_response⧽
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Things You'll Need
- The other person's number
- A Phone
- Confidence
- An idea or two of where you want to go on your date.
- Privacy
About This Article
Suzanna Mathews
Dating & Relationship Coach
This article was co-authored by Suzanna Mathews. Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University. This article has been viewed 117,811 times.
Co-authors: 18
Updated: July 7, 2022
Views: 117,811
Categories: Asking Someone Out
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