How to Text a Colombian Girl: Flirty Phrases and Tips

Co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP and Aly Rusciano

Last Updated: March 22, 2022 References

Crushing on a Colombian girl? Maybe you’ve matched with her on a dating site, or you’re looking for ways to start up a text conversation. Sending that first message can be nerve-wracking, but you got this! We’ve got all the tips and tricks you’ll need to text a Colombian girl, so keep reading to learn how you can impress her while respecting her culture.

1

Be straightforward.

Steer clear of mixed signals when you’re texting a Colombian girl. Be clear about your intentions by telling her you like her. You can let her know you’re into her by sending sweet messages and being attentive and assertive. Being open about your feelings makes you come off as courageous, so don’t be afraid to make your move.^{[1]
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- “I can’t lie, you’re gorgeous.”
- “What I wouldn’t give to be by your side right now.”
- “I’m totally into you.”

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Be polite.

Colombian culture respects strangers and family alike, so return the favor. The last thing you want to do is disrespect her, so keep your texts polite and reasonable even when you’re flirting. In other words, don’t type anything you wouldn’t say to her in person.
- “I’m enjoying every moment I have with you 🥰”
- “How did your meeting go today?”
- “It sounds like you had a rough day. 😢 Is there anything I can do to make it better?”

3

Compliment her.

Colombian or not, most girls love an occasional flattering comment. You know she’s beautiful inside and out, so don’t be afraid to tell her so! She’ll appreciate the sweet gesture and may even give you a cheesy compliment in return.^{[2]
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- “You have nothing to worry about! You’re the smartest person I know!”
- “When I think of your smile, my day is instantly better 😉”
- “I love your new profile pic! The new hair really suits you!”

4

Flirt with her.

Like all of us, Colombians love a little bit of flirting. Don’t be afraid of making a move sooner rather than later, so drop some not-so-subtle hints to grab her attention. There’s no problem with getting a little dirty, but remember to keep the flirts respectful.^{[3]
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- “Could you stop being amazing? You’re driving me so crazy.”
- “Just saw the pic you posted…Looking hotter than ever 😍”
- “How is the most beautiful woman on earth doing this morning?”

5

Tell her a joke.

Make her laugh with some sarcastic and self-deprecating jokes. Humor is a key part of Colombian culture, so show her your funny side with a joke or two. This is a great way to lighten the mood and get her to smile while texting you.^{[4]
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- “I hate when I’m about to hug someone sexy and my face hits a mirror…🤣”
- “My job is secure. No one else wants it.”
- “If I had a dollar for every girl that found me unattractive, they would eventually find me attractive! 🙃”

6

Talk about music.

Music is a big part of Colombian culture. Ask her what type of music she likes, and tell her about your favorite bands. You may have different tastes based on where you’re from, but that’s okay! Make each other playlists with your favorite songs to learn more about each other’s cultures.^{[5]
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- “What type of music do you like to listen to?”
- “Don’t laugh, but I’m a big fan of country 🤠 What music do you listen to in Colombia?”
- “Are there any Colombian artists you would recommend? I’d love to hear the music you listen to.”

7

Ask her questions.

Many Colombians easily open up about their emotions. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to get to know her—this is the only way to develop a real relationship. In the beginning, stick to topics like her interests, music taste, and general personality. As you start to get to know each other better, branch out!^{[6]
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- “What do you like to do in your free time?”
- “Who’s your favorite musician? I have no shame in saying I really like Taylor Swift 😂”
- “How would you describe yourself in 3 words?”

8

Ask her about her family.

In Colombian culture, a person’s family is a big part of their identity. To her, everyone she’s close to may be considered family—from her neighbor to the person who owns her favorite store. Family is community, so take the time to learn about everyone she loves.^{[7]
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- “Tell me a little about your family.”
- “What’s your family like? Do you have any siblings?”
- “I only have a handful of cousins. What about you?”

9

Open up about yourself.

Colombia is an energetic place, but many Colombians are good listeners too. She will most likely want to learn just as much about you as you want to learn about her, so tell her about yourself. Keep things on a positive note to start, and as you text each other more, share deeper parts of yourself.^{[8]
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- “I have this weird habit of eating apple cores. Still surprised an apple tree hasn’t grown inside me. 😂”
- “I really like knitting. It takes my mind off things. What about you? Any grandma-ish hobbies?”
- “I’m one of six siblings. It can be a madhouse over here! 😅 Do you have any siblings?”

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Impress her with your Spanish.

Colombian Spanish is a musical language full of quirks and slang. Take the time to learn some of the phrases she’s most likely to use so you can communicate better. Going the extra mile to text her in her native language can show her you’re willing to learn more about her culture.^{[9]
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- Instead of asking her “How are you?” with “¿Cómo estás?”, ask “What’s up?” like a local with “¿Qué más?” or “¿Quiubo?”
- Describe “cool” stuff as “bacano” or “chévere.”
- If Spanish isn’t your first language, no worries! Google Translate can help you bridge the language gap. Plus, converting your native language into hers can help you learn even faster.

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Respect her religion.

A Colombian girl’s faith might be a big part of her identity. Although there isn’t an official religion in Colombia, over 90% of Colombians are Christian. Because of this, religion is influential in many Colombians’ daily life. She may go to church every week, or participate in bible studies. Listen when she talks about religion, even if you don’t necessarily agree, to show her you care.^{[10]
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- “How was church last night?”
- “I’ve never thought of it like that. You’re making me question everything 😂”
- “I can’t say I’m very religious, but I want to learn more about your faith.”

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Message her at a reasonable time.

A Colombian girl will appreciate you being respectful of her schedule. Before you text her, consider the time and what she may be doing. There may be a time difference if she’s currently living in Colombia. Find out what time it is near her, and text her when she’s free, even if that means texting her when it’s super late by you. This attention is sure to be noticed.
- “Hey! When does school start and end for you?”
- “Can’t believe you just woke up and it’s nearly midnight here. One day, we’ll wake up together 😉”
- “When’s the best time for us to chat? Don’t want to be blowing up your phone during a meeting! 😂”

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Stay away from stereotypes.

There are many misinterpretations of Colombian culture. When you text a Colombian girl, avoid mentioning any stereotypes or making insensitive comments. Each Colombian girl is different, so get to know her rather than the stereotype of her culture seen on TV. Here are some topics to avoid:^{[11]
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- Jokes about drugs, drug consumption, or drug cartels.
- Violence in Colombia.
- Colombia struggles today and throughout history.