How to Pray for Your Future Husband

Co-authored by Nihal Shetty

Last Updated: June 15, 2022 References

All of us need God’s assistance, including when finding the right spouse. If you’ve been dreaming about meeting the perfect man for your married life, it makes sense to call upon God to help make this dream a reality. By praying persistently and with patience, you’ll be able to enjoy the plans that God has for you with an open heart. We’re here to help you reach out to God, whether you’re Christian, Muslim, or Jewish, with this complete guide on how to pray for your future husband.

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Prayer Guidelines

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Journal your reasons for prayer. Are you ready for marriage, and just waiting to find the right person? Are you unhappy about being single? Remind yourself to be thankful for what God has already done, and to maintain a clarity of intention when praying.^{[1]
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- When thinking through your reasons for prayer, you may want to enlist a trusted friend or family member to help you talk things through.
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Pray consistently. There’s no right time to start praying for a future husband—talk to God about what you need whenever you find yourself needing it. Try to make time every day to pray. Through consistent prayer, you grow in your faith and demonstrate your commitment to both God and finding the right husband.^{[2]
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- As the Book of Matthew says, “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” (Matthew 7:7).
- The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) once said that “Supplication is worship itself” (Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3247). Asking God for what you need is a way of praising Him.
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Be open-minded about potential matches. Have faith that God is always looking out for your best interests—try to see the good sides of a man, rather than immediately comparing him to your ideal husband. Try your best to accept God’s plan for you, even if it isn’t what you imagined.^{[3]
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- You may already have a certain person in mind. As hard as it might be to accept, keep in mind that you can’t force anyone to love you. Keep yourself open to other possibilities.
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Remain patient and persistent. It’s easy to become frustrated when it feels like God isn’t listening to your prayers, but remember that He always is. Your patience is a testament to your love and faith in God. When the time is right, you’ll find the perfect husband for you.^{[4]
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- As the Book of Romans says, “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” (Romans 12:12).
- The Qu’ran advises Muslims to “Seek Allah's help with patient perseverance and prayer. It is indeed hard except for those who are humble." (2:45)

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Christian Prayers for a Future Husband

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Prayer for patience“Holy God. Being single is a gift. There is nothing wrong with being single, but I still long for a partner in this life. Father, while I am waiting, give me the strength to endure each day. Lord, I am Your child. I pray that my life can reflect Christ to those around me always.”^{[5]
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Prayer to meet your future husband soon“Loving Father. You know that the deepest desire of my heart is to meet someone that I can share my life with. I trust in your loving plan for me and ask that I might meet soon the person that you have prepared for me. Through the power of your Holy Spirit, open my heart and mind so that I recognise my soulmate. Remove any obstacles that may be in the way of this happy encounter so that I might find a new sense of wholeness, joy, and peace. Give me the grace to know and accept if you have another plan for my life. I surrender my past, present, and future into the tender heart of your Son, Jesus, confident that my prayer will be heard and answered. Amen. Sacred Heart of Jesus, I place all my trust in you. St Valentine, pray for me.”^{[6]
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- This prayer is a novena, meaning that it’s meant to be prayed for 9 consecutive days.
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Prayer to St. Raphael“St. Raphael, loving patron of those seeking a marriage partner, help me in this supreme decision of my life. Find for me as a helpmate in life the person whose character may reflect some of the traits of Jesus. May he be upright, loyal, pure, sincere and noble, so that with united efforts and with chaste and unselfish love we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please God to entrust to our care. St. Raphael, angel of chaste courtship, bless our friendship and our love that sin may have no part in it. To your special attention I entrust the decision I am to make as to my future husband. Direct me to the person with whom I can best cooperate in doing God’s Holy Will, with whom I can live in peace, love and harmony in this life, and attain eternal joy in the next. Amen.”^{[7]
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Muslim Prayers for a Future Husband

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Dua to ask for Allah’s help“Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min kharyin faqeer.”
Meaning: “My Lord, I am ever needful of any favor that You may send my way.”^{[8]
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- After reciting this dua, ask Allah for His help finding a husband. You can say something like, “Please, give me the blessing of a loving husband to share my life with.”
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Dua for self-sufficiency“Allahumma aghnini bi halalika `an haramika wa bi ta`atika `an ma`siyatika wa bi fadlika `amman siwaka”Meaning: “O Allah, make me self-sufficient with what You have declared as halal for me so that I am not compelled to resort to that which is haram; and make me self-sufficient with Your obedience so that I am not compelled to disobey You; and make me self-sufficient with Your favor so that I do not need to look to others for favor.”
- You can then go on to request Allah’s help by saying something like, “I believe that I am ready to meet my husband. If it is in Your plan, please let it be so.”
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Dua for the guidance of Allah“Allahumma, rahmataka arju fala takilni ila nafsi tarafata `aynin wa aslih li sha’ni kullahu.”
Meaning: “O Allah, I beseech Your mercy, so do not abandon me to my own devices even for an instant, and straighten all of my affairs for me.”^{[9]
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- Follow up this dua with a personal supplication to Allah, saying something like, “Allah, please let the path to my husband be an easy one.”

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Jewish Prayers for a Future Husband

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Tefillah for a noble husband“May it be Your will Hashem, my God and God of my forefathers, that You find for me with your many mercies and the greatness of Your kindness, my true and befitting marriage partner at the right time. The right partner, worthy of having children, a learned man, great in Torah and the fear of Heaven, born from the seed of righteous and truthful men who have fear of sin. Just like You found the true partner for Adam Ha-Rishon, for Avraham, Yitzchak, Yaakov, and Moshe, each one his true partner at the right moment and time. And please let the partner that You choose for me be a good man, one with pleasantness of action, a master of good deeds, a man of grace with intelligence and fear of God, a pursuer of charity, and a doer of kindnesses. May he not have even a little insufficiency, or physical defect, or imperfection, and not be an angry or aggressive man. May he just be modest with a humble spirit, healthy, and strong. And please don’t allow any interference from ruthless individuals or enemies whose intentions and manipulations would aspire to prevent me from meeting my marriage partner.”^{[10]
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- This is a tefillah composed by Shelah Ha-Kadosh.
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Tefillah for an easy journey to marriage“May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart find favor before You, Hashem, my Rock and my Redeemer. May it be Your will, Hashem, our Father, King of the Universe, that I find my true marriage partner without difficulties of any kind. Guide and lead us to each other and open our eyes and hearts to make the right decision.”^{[11]
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- This tefillah was composed by Rabbi Mordechai Dolinsky.
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Teffilah for the blessing of marriage “Master of the universe, I come to You with a broken heart to lay down my prayers before You Hashem, my God and the God of my forefathers, that You should increase Your mercy on me and bring for me a pleasant partner, one with fear of God, a man with good character, and good mazal, good intellect, successful, and blessed, and with this I will be able to do Your holy service without being burdened. Your great mercy should come to me, to bend my heart to make the commitment to him so that I shall be able to fulfill Your will and it will be good for me in this world and the next world.”^{[12]
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- This tefillah is an adaptation of one composed by the Chida.

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Keeping Your Faith While You Wait

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Tap into your own network for matchmaking assistance. Be proactive about asking friends and family if they know anyone who might be a good match for you. You might also want to consider talking to people at your church, mosque, or synagogue, including religious leaders—through these networks, you can find a husband who shares your sense of faith.^{[13]
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Start meeting new people to broaden your social circle. There are all kinds of ways you can meet a potential husband. Try pursuing your hobbies, joining social clubs, or volunteering. By making new friends and acquaintances, you’ll open up your social circle further—then, it’s only a matter of time until you meet the right match.^{[14]
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Practice self-care to stay mentally strong. Taking some time every day to focus on and practice self-care keeps your search for a husband in perspective. Remember to eat and sleep well, spend time with your family and friends, and always do something every day just for yourself.^{[15]
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- Try not to obsess over your quest to find a husband. Remember that you already have a rich life, so be grateful to God and give His plan time.
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Keep praying to hone your relationship with God. Everything that is in God’s plan happens in good time. Remember that the purpose of prayer is to have a conversation with God. By speaking with God every day about your hopes, disappointments, and just the everyday events of your life, you grow closer to Him. There is no greater relationship in the world than this one.^{[16]
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