This article was co-authored by Kamila Tan. Kamila Tan is a Recovery Coach, former Division I Collegiate Athlete, Inspirational Speaker, and Mental Health Advocate. She is the Founder of Embracing Strength LLC, a coaching business with the mission to provide support for athletes recovering from disordered eating and body image issues and provide support for their families. Kamila informs her work helping athletes pursue recovery with her experience playing beach volleyball as a Division I NCAA collegiate athlete. Kamila holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Master of Public Health from the University of California at Los Angeles, and is currently pursuing her Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California.
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Whether you're posing for an art class or photographer, going skinny dipping, visiting a nude beach, or just baring all for a special someone, it's important to feel like you look good when other people can look at everything. Here are some ways to feel more confident about your unclothed body.
Steps
Radiating Confidence
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1Appreciate your own beauty. Poor body image tends to come from three main sources: peers, parents, and standards of beauty that come from the media.[1] All of these sources are external. So, try not to compare and contrast yourself with others, as that’s a sure way to downplay your own attractiveness. Instead, focus on your own definition of beauty and the characteristics that make you beautiful.[2]
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2Practice feeling comfortable naked. If no one is around to see you, develop your confidence by walking around the house naked for a little while. If there are other people in the house, get in a little naked time by doing some of your post-shower hygiene routine before putting your clothes on. If you have someone you are romantically intimate with, ask him or her to spend some time being naked with you. Over time, you'll grow an appreciation for your natural body.
- Give your naked body a hug all while aiming to notice the good things your body does for you, like its ability to heal, to play sport, to make things, to carry objects and other people, to let you travel, and more. It may seem simple but we are often too ready to critique our bodies instead of acknowledge all the amazing, good things they do for us each and every day; the hug helps to remind you to look on the good side.
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3Smile and make eye contact. Even when you’re naked, most people will notice your face first. Your expression there will set the context for everything else they see, so give them a winning smile and show off your confidence. Add good eye contact, and you'll look irresistible.
- To ensure a good smile and good breath, floss and brush your pearly whites. You might look for toothpaste approved by the American Dental Association.[3] Rinsing with mouthwash will help as well.
- Make sure your eyes look great by getting plenty of rest at least a few nights before. Also consider trying out brightening eye drops, but consult an eye doctor first. Certain eye drops can actually constrict blood vessels.[4]
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4Worry less about what the other person’s thinking. Chances are, people who see you naked aren’t thinking what you think they’re thinking, regardless of gender. Research suggests that men, as much as women, want to feel attractive during intimate moments.[5]
- Fake it ’til you make it. No one is 100% satisfied with how they look. So, everyone who’s confident in their naked selves is faking it to a certain extent and in a healthy way. Why not you too?
- Don’t apologize. Avoid drawing attention to anything negative or anything you might perceive as negative—verbally or even mentally, as much as you can avoid it. And never apologize for the way you look!
Looking Great in the Moment
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1Straighten your posture. Standing or sitting with good posture will make you look taller, slimmer, and more confident. Imagine there’s a string running all the way through your body, from the base of your spine to the top of your head, and alter your posture as if the string is being pulled taut. Just don't stand so stiff you look strained and tense.
- Notice your chin lift from your neck, making it appear more elongated.
- Your shoulders should also move down and backward.
- Your stomach should pull inward and upward (smoothing out any rolls), and your back will settle into a natural arch that pushes out both the butt and the chest.
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2Lie on your side. When lying on a bed or couch, lie on your side to give off good body language. This posture will also make your waist appear smaller and, with the lower arm under your chest, prop up your upper body as well.[6]
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3Walk, stand, or sit at an angle. Try this old modeling trick, meant to make people look better on a two-dimensional plane. Aim to stand or sit on the diagonal, with a slight twist at the waist instead of facing someone head-on.[7] This will naturally cinch in your waist. Further, walk with one foot directly in front of the other, forcing your waist to again twist back and forth. This sort of fluid motion will make you seem more trim overall.
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4Show off your best features. Everyone has parts of their body they are particularly happy with. How you position your body will “direct traffic” to or away from certain body parts. Here are some suggestions:
- Put a hand on your hip. If you like your waist, draw the eye there by putting a hand on one hip. Twist your torso slightly to accentuate the narrowness of your waist even more.
- Arch your back. Arching your back will play up your chest and butt, making them appear more prominent. Women can also lift their rears a bit by putting on a pair of high heels.
- Point your toes and cross your legs slightly. If you want to direct attention to your legs, keep your toes pointed and your legs slightly crossed, so that they overlap a bit. This will make them appear longer and smoother.
- Push your chest forward. To make your chest appear bigger, drop your shoulders and fold your arms around your waist, so that each hand lands on the opposite waist curve.
- Raise your arms over your head and flex a bit. Even less muscular men and women can show off the muscles in their arms and shoulders by lifting their arms and flexing their triceps and biceps a bit.
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5Wear an appealing fragrance. Knowing that you smell amazing will help you radiate confidence in your body. Put on deodorant, and wear a body spray, perfume, or cologne—but only enough of the latter that only someone close enough to embrace you would smell. If you're completely out of time and worried about smelling bad, splash some hand sanitizer or water under your armpits to eliminate odor.
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6Make the lighting work in your favor. Turn off glaring overhead lights and fluorescents, and opt instead for soft, glowing light sources. Light candles, or turn on a lamp. If the lamp is still too bright, throw a sheer scarf or sheet over it, or if you can, point it to shine on the wall instead of into the room. Position yourself so that the lighting is behind you, showing off your confident silhouette instead of any flaws you might be worried about.
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7Shower. Make sure your hygiene is at its best before you get bare. If you have time, take a shower or bath to wash and condition your hair and gently clean and exfoliate your whole body. You'll come out looking great and glowing! Just don't scrub yourself red and raw if your skin doesn't have time to recover, and don't spend so much time in the water that your hands start to wrinkle.
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8Simplify your hair. Nudity usually comes with (or at least gives the appearance of) a degree of intimacy. For this reason a hairstyle that looks relaxed and casually confident is often better than something tightly gelled or elaborately coiffed. The fewer pins and ties in your hair, the more natural you will look.
- Create appealing bed-head. Before you strip down, run your fingers through the roots of your hair making a scrubbing motion. You can also apply a root-lifting product in horizontal sections where the hair meets the scalp, and blow dry. Alternatively, you can hang dry hair upside down, and point a blow dryer on a cool air setting up at it. For last-minute lift, spray dry shampoo on your roots. Let it dry for a few minutes before mussing your hair with your fingers.
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9Apply a bit of makeup and moisturizer. Wear a full face of product if that's your preference, or go natural. Play up your cheeks with a light pink or coral blush that will make them look naturally flushed, and add a lip color that's one shade darker than your natural tone. At the very least, try to apply lip balm for smoother lips.
- Don't overdo the makeup. When you are nude, bold makeup colors don’t have clothes to compete with for attention. If you put on too much makeup, it will be more obvious when you are naked. On the other hand, you can keep attention on your face by applying an eye-catching shade of lipstick.
- Use moisturizer. Lotion, body oil, or other moisturizers will prevent your skin from drying out, give it a healthy sheen, and make your skin particularly soft to the touch. Avoid products with parabens and other toxic ingredients.[8]
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10Accessorize. Be bold and highlight your natural beauty with accessories. A necklace, scarf, or feather boa are great choices for women, and guys might want to consider dog tags, a nice watch, or even a tie. Pick something fun and unusual. You can use it to play with if you're a bit nervous, and it can nicely complement your au naturel state.
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11Get the room temperature right. Without clothes on, you will naturally need the air to be a little warmer to stay comfortable. Although the cold will make ladies’ breasts stand at attention, guys don't get the same benefits—and shivering with hunched shoulders isn’t a sexy look for anybody. Don’t crank up the heat too far, either: a glow is good, but sweating profusely is not. Aim for a little above room temperature, which is approximately 70 degrees Fahrenheit (21 degrees Celsius).
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12Watch out for heavy, bloating foods. Immediately before you plan to be naked, avoid foods that cause gas and bloating, such as beans, carbonated beverages, dairy products, and foods with high levels of fructose and unrefined sugars.[9] If your stomach expands anyway, try to go for a walk or make a trip to the bathroom—both will help move things along, so to speak.
- Over the longer term, try to incorporate healthy, slimming foods into your diet, such as fresh produce and items that contain omega-3 fatty acids.
Developing Your Look
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1Exercise and eat healthy. It might seem obvious, but a healthy diet and exercise will improve your skin and body in a variety of ways—and make you feel better and more confident in general. Here are some mostly-painless ways to start.
- Incorporate 10 or 20 minutes of light stretching or weight training into your day, and try to walk when possible. You'll notice a difference over the course of a few weeks.
- Tailor your exercise plan to your goals. If you want to lose weight, calorie restriction and cardio exercises are going to be your ticket. If you want to gain muscle, progressive weight training and getting enough protein is what you need.
- Consider getting a personal trainer. They can help you identify your goals and guide you toward them with expert knowledge and experience. If you're new to getting fit, a personal trainer will be the best way for you to ensure success.
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2Exfoliate. When you're naked, glowing skin can become your best accessory. Exfoliate your skin regularly, especially rough patches like elbows and knees, to remove dead cells. An exfoliating brush, glove, or loofah can help, as can scrubs with beads, salts, or other natural exfoliating substances.
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3Get a sunless tan. If you want your skin to look glowing, try applying a tinted moisturizer or bronze tanning lotion on your body. Exfoliate first, and be careful that you do this far in advance of having anything else touch your skin; you could stain something before the product dries fully. After your first coat has set, apply additional tanner to areas you would like to look leaner, like your thighs or waist. This gives a slimming shadow look.[10]
- Remember that tanning is best in moderation—too much will look more alien than attractive. And when in the presence of the real sun, wear sunscreen and avoid harsh UV rays.
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4Groom your body hair. You might find that you feel and look better naked with a little body hair management. Many women choose to de-fuzz their armpits, legs, back, bikini line, or pubic area. Many men also trim or shave their private region and keep an eye on the rest of their body hair, at the very least trimming down lone hairs that grow too long. Here are some methods to do so, from least time-consuming upward.
- Shaving. Use a safety or straight razor to remove excess hair. Shaving is best done in the shower, while your skin is surrounded by plenty of moisture, and with some sort of shaving cream or hair conditioner applied to your skin first. Watch out for razor bumps and ingrown hairs, and make sure to shave shortly before you plan to be naked to avoid the appearance of stubble.
- Waxing. Waxing will remove unwanted body hair for 4 to 6 weeks. However, the process is a lot more painful than shaving, and it can be harmful to people with certain skin sensitivities. Book an appointment at a salon for a consultation to figure out if waxing is the right choice for you. Never wax yourself at home, unless you're an experienced esthetician, or you have one helping you. You could seriously damage your skin if you do it wrong.
- Threading. Threading is similar to plucking, and pulls individual hairs out with tiny knots on a string of thread. Book an appointment at a local threading salon to find out more. This also works to remove unwanted eyebrow hair.
- Electrolysis or laser hair removal. These procedures are administered by a licensed professional over a long period of time, and usually result in dramatically reduced hair growth.
- Pluck any strays. After you've used the hair removal method of your choice (or not), clean up stray hairs on the shoulders, back, chest, abdomen, legs, or feet with a pair of tweezers.
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5Get great hair. Without your clothes, your hair will be about the only way to make a fashion statement. Try to make it look soft, healthy, and touchable, and consider dying it a color that best suits your skin tone.
- Apply color touchups to your hair, if needed. A root touchup or quick professional or self-coloring job can help reduce or eliminate gray hairs, if you’re going for a more youthful appearance. You might also consider a few sporadic highlights to draw attention to your hair.
- Choose a haircut that flatters the shape of your face and is in proportion to the size of your body. Finding a great stylist and visiting often will keep your hair fresh and fashionable.
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6Eliminate acne. Clear skin is appealing, and as such, acne can only get in the way of showing off your best self. Luckily, there are plenty of simple ways to get rid of acne. Severe acne might require help from a dermatologist, but for light acne, there are natural remedies that can help in a pinch.[11]
- Apply ice. Ice can help reduce swelling in early-stage pimples. Apply ice wrapped in cloth for a few minutes, remove, then repeat.
- The anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties in tea tree oil makes it an excellent tool to help with acne relief. Just apply to the affected area.
- Apply toothpaste to a pimple for an easy night-before treatment. Apply it to the area at night and wash it off in the morning.
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7Pay attention to the grooming details. Jagged nails, white knuckles, and the smell of onions you cut for dinner stir-fry just aren’t flattering. Clip your nails to an appropriate length, wash your hands and feet, and apply some lotion if they’re dry. Additionally, consider getting a manicure and pedicure.
- Whiten your teeth. Whitening your teeth will help make your smile pop. Consider whitening toothpaste, trays, strips, or pens. You can also have your teeth bleached or laser whitened by a dentist.
Community Q&A
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QuestionCould I wear a hat, or do I have to just go with nothing?NY BlossomTop AnswererIt's fine either way. If a hat makes you feel more confident, go for it. If you don't want to wear it, don't.
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QuestionIn the beginning can I wear just a bra?Community AnswerWhatever makes you feel comfortable! Wearing a bra will give your breasts a lift, but if you choose to wear, say, a sports bra, it would make your breasts appear smaller. But if you feel sexier not wearing a bra then go for it! Chances are that whoever you're hooking up with won't care if you have a bra on or off.
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QuestionCan I wear heels and just heels?Community AnswerYes, wearing heels actually emphasizes your curves and promotes better posture, all of which are key to looking good naked.
References
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a3773/feel-sexier-now/
- ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jenn-hand/3-ways-to-feel-good-naked-even-when-youre-feeling-fat_b_6802420.html
- ↑ http://www.ada.org/en/science-research/ada-seal-of-acceptance/product-category-information/toothpaste
- ↑ http://healthcare.utah.edu/healthfeed/postings/2014/09/090914_red.eyes.php
- ↑ http://www.womansday.com/relationships/sex-tips/advice/g1074/what-men-really-think/?slide=8
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/health-fitness/advice/g2021/how-to-look-good-naked/?slide=7
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- ↑ https://www.realbuzz.com/articles-interests/health/article/5-top-tips-to-help-you-feel-better-naked/
About This Article
To feel more confident about your unclothed body, start by practicing being naked when you’re alone, like after you shower, to get more comfortable walking around in the nude. When you’re naked around someone else, smile and make eye contact to create an air of confidence that will make you irresistible. Even when you don’t feel confident, act like you are, and don’t apologize for the way you look or point out features you see as flaws. Another way to look great in the moment is to straighten your posture. This will add to your confidence and make you even more desirable. Work on finding positions that make you feel best about how your body is seen, like lying on your side or turning to flattering angles. Rather than dwelling on feature you don’t like, focus on showing off your best features. For example, if you like your waist, draw the eye there by putting a hand on your hip. For more tips on looking great naked, like finding the best lighting for your body, keep reading!