How to Get a Girl to Notice You on Social Media: 10+ Tips to Stand Out

Co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP and Jessica Gibson

Last Updated: January 17, 2022 References

If you want to show up on a girl's radar, chances are you'll need to have a social media presence. With so many platforms available, it's easy to feel overwhelmed or wonder how she'll ever notice you. Fortunately, there are simple tricks you can use to stand out from the crowd and get her attention.

1

Follow her on her biggest platform.

This sends a subtle sign that she's on your radar. If you suddenly start following her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and her YouTube channel, she may be a little creeped out by your overwhelming interest. Instead, play it cool and pick her biggest platform so it's not weird if you suddenly start commenting or liking her content. Although any of these platforms are good for flirting, Facebook and Twitter are great at sending lots of notifications that can help you get noticed.^{[1]
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- You don't want to scare her off with your interest, which is why it's important to blend in a little on social media.

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Make your profiles public and add details.

Add cool information to your profile that might appeal to her. If your account is private, you won't show up on discovery or search pages so she won't be able to look into you if she sees that you're following her. Tweak your profile a bit to include some hobbies or interests that overlap with hers.^{[2]
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- For instance, if she loves a band, mention that you're a fan of their music. If she is outdoorsy, you might similar hobbies like hiking or kayaking.

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Use attractive photos of yourself.

Highlight your great looks or show off amazing experiences. Pick a profile picture that's in focus and flatters your favorite features. You can also use photos that play up how great you are! For example, post images of you snorkeling, hanging out with friends at a concert, or playing an instrument. Think about what you want her to see and show that on social media.^{[3]
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- Sort through your old photos and remove any that you don't like or that feel outdated.

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Interact with her newest posts.

Don't comment or like posts that are more than 5 days old. Nothing makes you look thirsty like going back through her old posts. This isn't to say you can't check out her old posts to learn more about her—just don't comment on or interact with those older posts. Stick to the newest posts if you want to engage her.^{[4]
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Comment occasionally.

Don't comment first on her posts or comment on every single one. Doing this can make it look like you've been watching and waiting for her to drop some content. Wait until a few people have already posted before you add your comment. Also, limit yourself to 1 comment per post since multiple comments may turn her off.^{[5]
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- Skip commenting on hugely popular posts, especially ones where everyone's basically commenting the same thing like "Congratulations" or "Happy Birthday."
- If you comment on every single one of her posts, she'll think you look way too eager or you've got a lot of time on your hands.

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Strike the right tone in your comments.

Stick with positive, fun remarks and avoid arguing. You don't want to get noticed for the wrong reasons, so don't correct her or get into a disagreement in the comments. Instead, find something playful or interesting to say so your comment stands out from the rest.^{[6]
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- For instance, if she tweets from a concert, you could reply, "OMG so jealous! Did they play from their newest album? The third track is amazing."

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Share positive content on your profiles.

Post unique or uplifting information so she likes what she sees. Sure, everyone has days that they just want to complain about life, but that's not really the vibe you want to send her. You're trying to show that you have a fun, upbeat personality so she's attracted to you. You might share updates about hitting the gym, eating at a great restaurant, or going out to see the newest blockbuster, for instance.^{[7]
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- Glance through her platforms to see what kind of posts she shares and share similar content. For instance, if she loves photography, share a few artsy black and white photos. This can help you create a connection.
- Avoid negative posts that show you smoking, drinking, or doing things that might turn her off.

8

Re-post her shareable content.

Look for shareable content like quotes, memes, or calls to action. She'll get a direct notification when you share her content, which means you'll instantly be on her mind. She'll probably have a positive association with you since you appreciated what she shared. She might even send you a message or leave a comment on your re-post!^{[8]
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- Keep in mind that not everyone has shareable content. You don't want to re-post her pictures or an update about how she's feeling, for instance.

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Post to your story every day.

This way your face will be at the top of their feed. Most platforms promote the newest content so she'll be sure to see it. If you always share to your story, you'll be constantly on her mind. Don't overthink what you post—it could be something simple like:^{[9]
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- A great meal you ate
- An update about the workout you just finished
- A quote you like
- A photo of somewhere you wish you were

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Ask people to tag you if you have mutual friends.

Pose together with people who know the girl and ask them to tag you. Even though you may not be friends with her in real life, she'll at least be able to put a name to your face when photos of her friends pop up on her platforms.^{[10]
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- For instance, if you're at a concert with a group of friends, take a selfie with people you know she hangs out with and share it on social media. Tag them and remark on what an amazing time you all had.

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Send her a direct message.

Start a conversation that could lead to a date. If you feel like she's aware of you and interested, send her a direct message and just comment on something she posted or that you have in common. If she messages back, keep it going. You could even suggest meeting up if it seems like you're hitting it off.^{[11]
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- For instance, send her a message like, "Your artwork blew me away. I love how you use photography and painting to make your work."
- If she replies and you message back and forth a few times, it's totally fine to say something like, "Hey, do you want to grab drinks or coffee sometime?"

Expert Q&A

Question

What will make a girl fall for you on Facebook?

Christina Jay, NLP
Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach
Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.

Christina Jay, NLP

Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach

Expert Answer

You may not be able to get a girl to totally fall for you online, but you might be able to pique her interests. Interact with her posts occasionally and don't come on to strong. She'll scan your profile eventually and if she thinks you're cute she may reach out.