How to Get a Baby to Stop Crying

Co-authored by Joel Warsh, MD

First-time parents will often find it difficult trying to stop their baby from crying. It is perfectly natural for a baby to cry almost every day, especially in the first few months. While you can give your baby time to cool down in later months, early on you will need to address their concerns right away. Always start by addressing your baby’s basic needs. If this does not help to calm your baby, then move on to soothing them or entertaining them. Keep in mind that it may take some time to find what your baby needs and to learn what techniques work best for your baby.

Method 1

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Addressing Your Baby’s Basic Needs

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Change your baby's diaper if it is dirty. Look for signs such as crying, odor, wetness, or constant movement and check your baby’s diaper.^{[1]
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- Check your baby’s diaper at least every 2 to 3 hours to help prevent diaper rash and keep your baby comfortable.
- Always wash your hands before and after you change your baby’s diaper.
- Change diapers in a warm, clean location, such as on a clean towel on your living room floor or on a changing table in the baby’s nursery.^{[3]
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Feed your baby if they seem hungry. Breastfeed or bottle-feed your baby pumped breast milk or formula. If your baby has progressed to solid foods, then you can also offer them some cereal or baby food. Some signs that your baby might be hungry include:^{[4]
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- Smacking their lips
- Crying
- Rooting (baby turning their head toward you when you touch their cheek)
- Putting their hands in their mouth
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Pat your baby on their back to burp them after a feeding. After they are done eating, they may start to cry because of a gas build-up in their stomach. The best way to burp your baby is to lean your baby's stomach over your shoulder. One hand should be on the baby's bottom while the other is supporting the baby’s head and neck. Gently pat your baby on the back as you hold them in this position until your baby burps.^{[5]
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- Keep your baby upright so that they can release the gas build-up.
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Bicycle your baby’s legs to help relieve built-up gas. If your baby is still crying after you try to burp them, then they might need more help to release built-up gas. Lay your baby on their back on top of a soft blanket. Gently grab each of their lower legs and begin to bicycle them (this is the same motion as you would pedal a bicycle). Keep doing this until you either hear your baby relieve themself or they stop crying.^{[6]
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- You can also contact your doctor about using infant gas drops which help your baby pass gas.
- Make sure to consult your doctor about constant gas problems. This could be related to acid reflux, lactose intolerance, constipation, the stomach flu, etc.^{[7]
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Offer a pacifier if your baby is not responding to other strategies. Babies, especially up to 7 months old, have strong sucking needs. If your baby is crying after changing, feeding, and burping them, then they might simply want something to suck on. Try giving your baby a pacifier or help them find their thumb and see if this helps to soothe them.^{[8]
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- Giving your baby a pacifier might also help them to fall asleep.
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Take your baby to their crib if they seem sleepy. Sometimes the best solution is the easiest. A baby will often cry a lot if they need to go to sleep. They may also yawn, be a tad cranky, or simply be falling asleep. Hold them in your arms for a while before you take them to their crib. After they are calm, lay them down in their crib on their back.^{[9]
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- Don’t put any blankets, pillows, stuffed animals, or other items in the crib with your baby. These increase the risk of SIDS.
- A musical mobile hanging above the bed, playing a song, can help lull them to sleep.
- Always keep a baby monitor on if you plan on going out of the room.
Tip: Talk to your doctor if your baby cries incessantly for 3 or 4 hours at a time, 3 or more days of the week, over a period of 3 or more weeks. This is a sign of colic, and your baby’s pediatrician may be able to help you with strategies for soothing your baby.^{[10]
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Method 2

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Calming and Soothing Your Baby

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Swaddle your baby to provide a warm, snug, and secure feeling. The key is to wrap your baby tightly, without over-wrapping. Start by grabbing a small blanket, and lay it so it looks like a diamond. Then take the top corner and fold it all the way down to the other corner. This should create what looks like an upside-down triangle. Center your baby in the middle of the blanket and pull their arms inward.^{[11]
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- Take the left corner and pull it all the way across the baby. Tuck it underneath their back on the other side.
- Take the right corner and pull it all the way to the left. Tuck that underneath their back as well. Finish the fold by tucking the bottom of the blanket underneath the baby.
- Keep the top open so the baby's head is fully exposed. You can also pull back some of the blanket at any time you think it is too tight.^{[12]
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Cuddle with your baby to make them feel secure. Babies, especially during the first few months, need lots of care and affection. Hold your baby in your dominant arm and secure them with your other arm. Rest your baby's head in the crook of your elbow. Sway, bounce, or walk as you hold your baby. Make sure that your baby is resting against your body, as they may like to hear your heartbeat and see your face.^{[13]
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Tip: Try using a baby sling or carrier to keep your baby close and have your hands free. Make sure to follow the instructions carefully to ensure that your baby is secure.
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Adjust the noise level in your home. While some babies like noises, some like it to be quiet and dark. Dim the lights in your house so that they do not bother the baby's eyes. Turn off the television, the vacuum cleaner, hair dryer, etc.^{[15]
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- You might also want to check the internal temperature of the house. If it is too hot, or too cold, that can bother the baby's nerves.^{[16]
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Give your baby a massage. The warm touch of your hands can console your baby almost instantly, especially when they are feeling muscle or joint pain (commonly referred to as "growing pains"). You will want to lay your baby in a comfortable position, like on the couch or the bed. Take your baby's clothes off except for their diaper. Use baby oil or lotion to conduct the massage. You will want to work in soft, gentle motions. If your baby cries more when you begin to give the massage, don’t continue the massage. Try something else.^{[17]
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- Make sure to work the face, arms, legs, back, and stomach.
- Use slow circular motions as well as hand-over-hand motions. Use thumb-over-thumb motions to massage your baby's hands and feet. Separate and massage each finger and toe.

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Entertaining Your Baby

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Sing to your baby to distract them. If your baby is crying and having trouble sleeping, sometimes the easiest remedies are the best. Sing a lullaby to your baby, or just hum as you watch your baby. They will focus on the notes and your face, and finally relax. As you are singing to them, you can either lay them in their crib, or hold and rock them in your arms.^{[19]
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- It does not matter what you sing to your baby! Sing a nursery rhyme or a popular song that you know well. Your baby will just like hearing the sound of your voice.
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Play a game with your baby. Put your hands over your eyes, pull them away, and say "peek-a-boo!" Make funny faces at your baby by scrunching your face, and wait for them to laugh. Place them on the carpet and crawl around on the floor with them. Place your hand in front of them face and wait for them to touch your hand with theirs.^{[20]
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- You can also try talking to your baby in a silly voice. Put your face close to their face and talk to them.
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Take your baby outside in a stroller or baby carrier. Secure your baby in a stroller or place your baby in a sling around your shoulder. Your baby will enjoy seeing new things, and breathing fresh air. Always bring a bottle, pacifier, diaper, etc. with you when you leave. Go walk with your baby for about 30 minutes to 1 hour. The movement of the stroller may also calm your baby down.^{[21]
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- Make sure not to go anywhere too rugged.
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Visit a friend or family member with your baby. Taking your baby to a trusted friend or family member’s house may be a good change of pace for both of you. Breathing fresh air, going on a car ride, and traveling to new places can also excite your baby's senses and make them forget about crying.^{[23]
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Safety Precaution: Make sure if you take your baby in a car that you are using adequate safety measures, such as placing your baby in the back seat buckled into a rear-facing car seat.

Expert Q&A

Question

What is gripe water good for?

Joel Warsh, MD
Board Certified Pediatrician
Dr. Joel Warsh is a board certified Pediatrician and the Owner & Founder of Integrative Pediatrics and Medicine in Los Angeles, California. With over a decade of experience, Dr. Warsh specializes in holistic and integrative medicine. He holds a Bachelor’s degree in Kinesiology and Health Sciences, a Master’s degree in Epidemiology and Community Health, and a Doctor of Medicine (MD) from Thomas Jefferson Medical College, where he was elected president of the Jefferson Pediatric Society. Dr. Warsh then completed his Pediatric Residency at Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles (CHLA), where he received the George Donnell Society Research Fellow.

Joel Warsh, MD

Board Certified Pediatrician

Expert Answer

Gripe water is a natural remedy that can help ease a baby's fussiness due to constipation, bloating, or gas. It's a good first step for those things because it usually contains natural ingredients.
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How can I stop my baby crying over the phone?

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Community Answer

Talk in a soothing voice and let the baby feel your presence. Sing to them or talk to them the way you normally do when you're around them.
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What if I have tried everything and nothing works?

Community Answer

Contact your pediatrician, as there could be a medical issue that you're not aware of. Remain patient and calm at all times.

Warnings

Never spank or hit your baby. They are too young to understand why you are physically punishing them. Spanking will only cause them to cry longer, and it can cause long-term psychological damage.

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NEVER shake a baby. This can cause brain damage and death.

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Take your child to the doctor for regular check-ups. Crying for excessive amounts of time might mean that there is a serious problem which needs to be remedied.

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Always keep an eye on your baby. Even if your baby won't stop crying, it is unacceptable to place them somewhere secluded, or far away.

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