How to Flirt with a Virgo Man

Co-authored by Jessica Lanyadoo and Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: February 4, 2022

Practical and proper Virgos are reserved when it comes to romance, but once you win their heart, they're incredibly loyal. If you're looking to strike up a flirty dialogue with one, start by appealing to a few key Virgo qualities. Be patient and respectful of him, and he'll be hooked in no time. Here's a comprehensive guide on how to flirt with a Virgo man!

1

Approach him first.

Take the first step since Virgos can be shy and unsure of themselves, and they tend to be on the introverted side.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} In fact, the more he likes you, the shyer he's likely to be in your presence. Once he knows you're interested, it'll be a lot easier for him to step up and start flirting too. Send subtle signals at first, striking up a conversation whenever you see him and making an effort to spend time with him.
- "Hey! We met the other day. How's it going?"
- "Hi, David, great to see you! What've you been up to?"
- If you got his number, text him. "Hi! This is Jaime—we met at that party last week. I had a great time chatting with you!"

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Make frequent eye contact.

He prefers to use subtle body language when flirting. Eye contact allows him to share an intimate moment with you without being too forward or suggestive. He may even avoid your eyes at first but work up to more eye contact as he gains confidence. Holding your gaze is a sign that he wants to be more open with you!
- Make sure you're not starting a staring match and focus on following his queues. If he starts holding eye contact more often, you can do the same.

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Dress simply but elegantly.

Virgos appreciate sophisticated clothes and a well-groomed appearance. Focus on looking neat and wearing simple but fitted clothing that flatters your figure. Virgo men don't look for the flashiest or most revealing person in the room; they look for someone with a refined personal style and an air of sophistication about them.^{[2]
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- As earth signs, Virgos appreciate soft earthy tones. Wear lots of creams, browns, and blacks, with pops of green or orange if you want some color.
- You can also wear quality fabrics to impress him, like silk and suede.
- Be detail-oriented and pay attention to your hair, nails, and accessories. Make sure everything matches and looks tidy.

4

Be a little mysterious.

Encourage Virgo's natural curiosity and let him get to know you slowly. Answer questions about yourself when he asks, but try to be a little vague at first. Rather than giving him the whole story, offer a few details and hint that there's more to tell. Always save a couple of stories for the next time you see him, so he keeps trying to learn more about you.
- "I love exploring new places! I got to do a lot of traveling as a kid."
- "I went to a great college in New York! Got some funny stories to tell from those days, too. What about you?"

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Encourage him with compliments.

Give your self-critical Virgo a confidence boost by flattering him. He's a perfectionist, which means he does many things really well but criticizes himself nonetheless. Recognize his best qualities and make him feel good about the work he does. Be honest and sincere with every compliment!^{[3]
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- "Your perspective is so refreshing! I always have something new to think about when we talk."
- "I'm so glad I met a fellow foodie! You have great taste in restaurants."

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Ask him for help.

Practical Virgos love to feel useful to people they like. He's a problem-solver by nature and extremely down-to-earth, so asking him for help isn't an imposition—it's a way to reassure him that he's valued and appreciated.^{[4]
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- "I'm trying to tidy up, and you're always so well-organized! Could you give me a few pointers?"
- "I need help! One bookworm to another: what should I read next?"
- Text him for help. "I need coffee to get me through work today! 🥱 You're a caffeine connoisseur—any recommendations?"

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Impress him with your smarts.

He loves intelligent conversation and wants a partner who can match him. Get him talking about one of his interests; this could range from a philosophical debate to analyzing his favorite movie. Listen, give him your honest opinion, and don't be afraid to disagree. So long as you're respectful, he'll love to have his brain challenged and be interested to hear new perspectives.
- "Have you heard this podcast yet? I think it offers some really fascinating perspectives on old true crime stories. I'd love to know what you think!"
- "I've read a few new books lately that I really enjoyed. What about you? I'm sure you have great taste in books."

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Make him laugh.

Dry, witty humor is common among Virgo guys. Appeal to that sense of humor by engaging him in playful banter and offering up dry or sarcastic remarks that will amuse him. Virgos have understated humor, but as you get to know him, he'll start to come out of his shell and tell more jokes around you too.
- "Of course I talk to myself—sometimes I need some expert advice."
- "I went to a restaurant that serves 'breakfast at any time.' So I was really confused when they said I couldn't have French toast during the Renaissance."
- Send a deadpan text and then follow it up with a goofy GIF, so he knows you're joking.
- Crude humor isn't really a Virgo's cup of tea. Keep your jokes clean and witty for the best effect!

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Talk about his goals.

Acknowledge your Virgo's driven and hardworking nature. He's proud of the work he does and probably has some lofty ambitions, whether it's professional or about one of his hobbies. Wish him a good day at work, and ask him about his day when he gets home. If he needs help to meet his goals, offer to be that source of support.
- "Good luck at work today! You worked really hard, and your presentation is going to be amazing."
- "Hey, handsome! How was your day today? You've really been going above and beyond lately at work."

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Stay positive.

An optimist can balance Virgo's tendency to be hard on himself. Convince him to relax and enjoy himself a little after a hard day's work, and offer encouraging words when he gets too critical of himself. When he makes a big accomplishment, celebrate with him and be his cheerleader. Virgos are extremely attracted to people who can be a source of positivity in their lives.^{[5]
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- "I know you mentioned having a heavy workload today. Want to hang out? We can talk about it if you'd like—or just do something fun!"
- "Come and meet me for lunch! You've been working hard, and you deserve a little break."
- Send him an upbeat good morning text. "Hey there! Thinking of you. Have a great day at work! 😊"

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Be classy and respectful.

These guys are conservative when it comes to romance. Be sweet, subtle, and sincere when you start flirting with him.^{[6]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} He'll enjoy dignified flirtation to overtly sexual comments, at least in the beginning. For Virgo, there's a time and a place to get explicit; he might be interested in steamy exchanges when your relationship progresses a little more.
- "Hey! You're looking handsome today."
- "You know, you're pretty amazing. I'm glad we met!"
- "I feel comfortable being myself when we're together. I hope you do too!"

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Speak with confidence.

Virgos are attracted to people with self-assured attitudes. Let your confidence shine when you talk to him about your ambitions and goals in life. Show him that you're as driven and hardworking as he is. Talking about your accomplishments is a great way to make you feel more confident about yourself, too!
- "It's so refreshing to talk to someone as goal-oriented as I am!"
- "I've been making some great progress at work lately. Can we talk about it?"

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Be patient.

This sign can't be rushed into anything, especially romance. Being flirty with a Virgo requires a balancing act between showing your interest without scaring him off by getting too intense. He'll appreciate you taking the initiative, but then he'll need space to decide how he feels and flirts back on his own terms.
- If you start the flirting, for example, let him be the one to take the next step and ask you out. That way, you're letting him know that you're interested without pushing him for more.
- When you're texting, wait for his response before sending a follow-up message. Double-texting could make him feel pressured to respond.
- Being consistent and flexible is a great way to engage with a Virgo guy.^{[7]
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Expert Q&A

Question

What are good dates for Virgos?

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

Jessica Lanyadoo

Astrologer & Psychic Medium

Expert Answer

Pick a place where can have a nice, long conversation and really get to know him. A movie theater or crowded place definitely isn't ideal.
Question

How do you make a Virgo man fall in love with you?

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

Jessica Lanyadoo

Astrologer & Psychic Medium

Expert Answer

Be thoughtful! Virgos are really reflective and considerate, and tend to notice everything. So, if a Virgo guy tells you something on Monday and you mention the same topic on Friday, he'll notice and be appreciative.