How to Flirt with a Guy on Instagram

Co-authored by John Keegan and Aly Rusciano

Last Updated: February 14, 2022 References

So, you’re crushing on a guy you know on Instagram. He’s everything you could ever want, but how do you flirt with him on social media without looking silly? Thankfully, there are many ways you can flirt on Instagram that’ll show off your confidence and grab his attention! Keep reading to learn how you can flirt with a guy on Instagram and get on his radar.

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Like his most recent posts.

Show him you're interested by keeping up with his feed. You don’t need to be the first to like his posts, but make sure you like them the second you see them. He’ll get a notification and see your username and pic—immediately putting you on his radar!
- If you’re feeling extra bold, like one of his past posts. This is a sure way to tell him you’re into him as not just anyone will scroll through his entire feed.^{[1]
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Comment on his posts.

Stand out with a witty remark that’ll have him checking out your page. Depending on the number of followers he has, he may get hundreds of comments swooning over his selfies or maybe only a handful of friends and family cracking jokes. Assess the situation and go from there.^{[2]
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- If he has a lot of comments on his posts, send a flirtatious remark that’ll have you standing out from the rest. Try tagging a brand you know they love with “Why isn’t he one of your models? Book him ASAP!”
- If only friends and family are commenting on his post, keep your comments subtle but sweet. Try something like, “So…are you an influencer yet?” or, “Who gave you permission to be this gorgeous?”

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React to his stories.

Let him know you’re paying attention with a “🔥.” If you find the selfie he posted to his story hot, don’t be afraid to tell him!^{[3]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.} Reacting to his stories with Instagram’s featured story emojis is a great way to start a private message thread, especially if you can’t seem to find the right words. Let the emojis do the talking and see how he responds.^{[4]
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- If he posts an adorable picture of his pet, react with a “😍.”
- If he posts a video of his latest accomplishment, react with a “🎉.”
- If he posts his lit outfit, react with a “💯.”

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Post on your story often.

Grab his attention with some hot selfies he won’t be able to ignore. First, make sure he’s following you back, and then start snapping away! When he sees your gorgeous face smiling back at him, he won’t hesitate to start a conversation.
- Not in the mood to take a selfie? No worries! Snap a pic of what you’re eating or where you’re sitting.
- Instagram stories give your followers a chance to see what you’re up to day to day, so show him little snippets of your life.
- Feeling extra cheeky? Tag him in your story so he’s sure to notice!

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Slide into his DMs.

Go for the ultimate flirt by private messaging him directly.^{[5]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.} Take a deep breath and send him a flirtatious comment to immediately get his attention. You could send him a message about his most recent post or story, or be bold and ask for his number. Go with your gut and see where the conversation leads! If you’re not sure where to start, here are some examples:^{[6]
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- If he posts a story featuring his favorite movie, reply with something like, “I need to know the name of this movie!”
- If you have followers or friends in common, send him something like, “I’ve noticed we have a lot of mutual friends. How have we never met?”
- If he often posts about his favorite cafe, try sending him something like, “Do you go here often? I’m looking for a new coffee place.”
- If you’re absolutely floored by his selfies, message him something like, “How are you even real?”

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Send him a cute selfie.

Snap a sexy pic to let him know you’re into him. Now, this picture isn’t for your story or public posts—it’s for his eyes only. There’s nothing more flirty than sending him a selfie only he will see! So, put on your best smile and show him what he’s missing.
- Have fun and play around with filters. Choose something with romantic lighting, or get goofy and pick something that warps your face.
- Send your selfie as a disappearing message he will only be able to see once, or send it as a picture that stays in your thread. The choice is yours!

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Ask him open-ended questions.

Show him you’re interested by asking about him. Open-ended questions are great when it comes to getting to know someone because they can start and keep the conversation going. There’s no need to overthink the questions—just stick to your curiosities and see where the conversation goes.^{[7]
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- Simple questions can work wonders. Try something like, “How do you know so and so?” or, “Are there any shops you would recommend?”^{[8]
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- Once you know his interests, ask him more personal questions. Try something like, “How did you get into basketball?” or, “If you had to pick one Adam Sandler movie, what would it be?”

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Compliment him.

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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.} You can’t go wrong with compliments, and the great thing about them is they can be as subtle or saucy as you’d like! Shoot a compliment his way either by replying to his story, commenting on his post, or sending him a private message. Here are some compliments to get you started:
- “You look amazing in that jacket.”
- “Your smile immediately made me smile.”
- “Did someone get a haircut cause you’re looking good!”
- “Smart and attractive? How are you single?”

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Send him a funny meme.

Show him your playful side with a post that makes you think of him. You can keep this flirty interaction private by sending the post straight to his DMs, or you can get a little risky and tag him in the post publicly. This is a great way to see if he’ll reply to you.^{[10]
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- Add a silly comment like, “Hah! This reminds me of you😂” or, “I can’t be the only one who sees this!”
- Send him memes that are personal to him for some extra flirtatious points! Does he have a favorite TV show, sports team, or band? Find posts that feature his interests.

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Amp things up with a saucy message.

Turn up the romance with a flirty comment that’ll have him wanting you. If subtlety isn’t your thing, get right down to it with a flirt that’ll have his mind wandering. Strut right into his DMs for a little privacy, or up the pressure by commenting something spicy on his latest post for all to see.
- “I had a dream about you last night.”
- “I’m cold. Wanna come over and warm me up?😏”
- “I like you. What are you going to do about it?”
- “I like your clothes…but they would look even better off😍”

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Ask him to hang out IRL.

Take things to the next level by asking him out. You’ve grabbed his attention and maybe he’s started flirting back with you, so now it’s time to go on a real date. Ask him for his number so you can call him sometime, or start scheduling a face-to-face meeting through private messages.
- “Hey! I would love to chat with you sometime. Here’s my number.”
- “I can’t stop thinking about you. Do you wanna meet up?”
- “Wanna finish this conversation in person?”