How to Dress for a First Date if You're Plus Size

Co-authored by Elle Monus and Dan Hickey

Last Updated: January 4, 2023 References

The first question about a first date that comes to mind is usually, “What will I wear?!” Luckily, we’re here to help you put together a fabulous look that flatters your shape and accentuates your curves. There are a ton of ways to wear and style your clothes to look and feel your best for the big night, so keep reading for a list of outfit ideas and styling tips that’ll have your date asking you out for round 2 before the night is over!

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Wear garments that skim your curves.

Fitted clothes that accentuate your figure will make you feel sexy and confident. Clothing that’s too tight will feel uncomfortable, and something too loose will hide your figure completely (neither are ideal for a first date). Try stylish pieces like pencil skirts, fitted jeans, or wrap dresses that are easy to accessorize or mix-and-match.^{[1]
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- Remember, you get to decide what you feel comfortable and attractive in. Your outfit can be as skin-tight or baggy as you like!
- Try dark, fitted jeans with a t-shirt and white sneakers for a flattering, casual date night look.
- Add heels to your wrap dress or a pencil skirt and billowy blouse combo for an elegant, stylish outfit. Simple jewelry, like a pair of metallic hoops and a necklace, adds a nice finishing touch.

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Try color blocking to accent your best assets.

You can flatter your shape by using colors strategically. In general, lighter colors will accent a part of your body while dark colors can hide or cover areas you’re self-conscious about. Pick 2 complementary colors—a light and a dark—for the top and bottom halves of your outfit and flaunt what you’ve got!^{[2]
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- For example, if you want to highlight your legs or behind, try light wash jeans with a dark top to make your assets pop.
- Alternatively, if you want to accentuate your bust or arms, try dark jeans or a black skirt with a light-colored top.

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Accentuate your figure with a belted look.

A belt will cinch your waist and add shape to any look. It’s a versatile accessory that will balance your look and flatter your curves.^{[3]
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- You can throw a belt over a wide variety of clothes like peplum tops, tunics, sheaths, or swing dresses (basically anything where you want to create or accent a waistline). Wear the belt just under your waistline and let the shirt material blouse over the top of the buckle for an effortless look.
- A belt is especially handy in fall and winter when bulky coats and sweaters can hide your shape.
- Showing off your waist will add proportion to your outfit and avoid a less shapely columned or draped look.^{[5]
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Match high-waisted pants with a cropped top.

This combo highlights the curves of your waist. It’s also a great way to show some fashionable skin in the summer months. Try your favorite pair of high-waisted jeans or a skirt with a cropped shirt.^{[7]
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- The opposite combination is also flattering. Wear a long top or a tunic shirt with lower-rise bottoms for a streamlined, polished look.

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Wear big, bold prints.

Plus-size women can work these very successfully. A lot of people think big prints will draw unwanted attention to their size when actually, they’re the only people that can pull them off. Go for your favorite big florals, geometric patterns, or animal prints without fear! They’re a great way to show off your personality and unique sense of style, so have fun with it.^{[8]
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- Animal prints like cheetah, zebra, leopard, or snakeskin make a feisty statement. Try an animal print bodycon dress with a black fitted jacket and matching bootie for a fun, sexy, and easy look.
- Fun patterns like big polka dots or stripes pair well with denim jackets or shackets and white sneakers.
- Beware of too many prints or patterns at once. You want one print to be the focal point of your outfit, so balance it out with some solid-colored more subdued pieces or accessories.^{[9]
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Wear something red for a sexy touch.

Men generally think red is the sexiest color on a woman. You can wear whatever colors you prefer, but red usually gets a stronger reaction than blues, greens, yellows, or neutrals. Try a red dress or top on your first date to catch your partner’s eyes and stun them. ^{[10]
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- Black is also universally flattering and sexy on both women and men.
- Remember, you should wear something sexy because it makes you feel good and not because you’re trying to impress or attract someone.

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Make a statement with a monochromatic look.

A solid color dress or jumpsuit grabs attention and elongates your body. An outfit like this is pretty flattering on any body type and creates a long, vertical line that makes you seem taller. A bright or unusual color will make a big fashion statement as long as it complements your skin tone (you won’t have much else to balance out this look, so choose a contrasting color).^{[11]
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- Try pairing your dress or jumpsuit with heels to make your body look even longer and taller. Heels are also a great way to dress up the look for more formal occasions.
- A monochromatic dress or jumpsuit looks great with an accent belt around your waist. Try matching your bag and shoes to the belt and voila! You’ll look effortlessly chic.
- Go for sparkly or shiny shoes and accessories to add some texture and visual interest to this look. The solid color loses some intrigue after a while, so breaking it up with accent colors and accessories is a great way to keep it looking fresh throughout your date.

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Go big with accessories.

Statement jewelry and fun bags or shoes elevate your look. If your clothes are on the plain side, go for a bag or shoes with prints or accent colors (and vice versa).^{[12]
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- Make a statement with your shoe. A hip sneaker, a sky-high heel, or a cute boot are all great options. Kitten heels or flats won’t pop as much.
- Jewelry can draw attention to the areas you want to show off. Try a cute ring or bracelet to highlight your hands, or a bright necklace to showcase your neck or chest.
- If you’re worried you’re wearing too much jewelry, remember Coco Chanel’s wise words: “Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and take one thing off.”

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Keep your date's attention on your face with an open neckline.

Bulky or distracting collars will keep your date’s eyes around your neck. Go for a top with a boat, scoop, or V-neck collar to draw your date’s attention upwards towards your beautiful smile. Solid colors are also minimally distracting and will really make your face pop.^{[15]
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- Leave graphic tees or tops with writing on them in your closet so the focus stays on your face.

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Dress comfortably for the venue you’re going to.

Comfort is the most important thing to consider for your first date look. It’s already a nerve-wracking experience, and the last thing you want to do is tug at your neckline or adjust your skirt the whole night. Choose something comfortable that’s appropriate for the date night destination.^{[16]
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- Choose a shoe you’ll be able to move in. High heels might be great for dinner and cocktails, but not so much for a walk through the park.
- Pick a style that represents you. Dressing like your favorite celeb or influencer might make you feel awkward or ingenuine. In general, go with a timeless look over something trendy.
- Check the weather before you head out. An outfit with layers is a good idea for changing temperatures or rainfall.

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Frame your face with a flattering hairstyle.

The right hairstyle will balance your proportions and make you more photogenic. A hairstyle that compliments your face shape—like a long, layered cut or a choppy pixie cut—will make your eyes, bone structure, and smile pop. Try adding waves or highlights to draw the eye downward and elongate your face.^{[17]
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- Bobs, single layer cuts, short layers, or full curls can balloon around your face and exaggerate a rounder face. Stick to styles that add definition and shape.^{[18]
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- It’s best not to get a haircut right before your date in case it doesn’t turn out exactly like you pictured it. Try styling your hair on your own first, or ask a salon tech for advice on products, styles, or potential future cuts.^{[19]
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Remember that confidence is key.

Your date will respond to your confidence as much as to your outfit. First dates can be nerve-wracking for anyone, and your date is probably just as nervous as you are. Take a deep breath, stand up tall, and strut your stuff!^{[20]
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- “Fake it until you make it.” By standing tall, keeping your shoulders relaxed, and making eye contact, your body can trick your brain into relaxing.
- “It’s not what you wear, but how you wear it.” Your look doesn’t dictate how you feel. Have some fun and let go of your outfit insecurities!

Expert Q&A

Question

What kind of clothes look good on an hourglass figure?

Elle Monus
Image Consultant
Elle Monus is an Image Consultant and the Co-Founder of True Image Group. With over 11 years of fashion industry experience, she specializes in holistic approaches to branding, size-inclusive image consulting, and personal styling. Additionally, Elle has had the opportunity to work on several New York Fashion Week shows and has been featured in multiple media outlets, such as Racked.

Elle Monus

Image Consultant

Expert Answer

A body con option is always great! Just make sure your fabric flows over any trouble spots instead of clinging.
Question

What should the inverted triangle body shape wear?

Elle Monus
Image Consultant
Elle Monus is an Image Consultant and the Co-Founder of True Image Group. With over 11 years of fashion industry experience, she specializes in holistic approaches to branding, size-inclusive image consulting, and personal styling. Additionally, Elle has had the opportunity to work on several New York Fashion Week shows and has been featured in multiple media outlets, such as Racked.

Elle Monus

Image Consultant

Expert Answer

Wear A-line skirts and wide leg pants, which balance your body by creating volume in your bottom third.
Question

What should an apple shape wear?

Elle Monus
Image Consultant
Elle Monus is an Image Consultant and the Co-Founder of True Image Group. With over 11 years of fashion industry experience, she specializes in holistic approaches to branding, size-inclusive image consulting, and personal styling. Additionally, Elle has had the opportunity to work on several New York Fashion Week shows and has been featured in multiple media outlets, such as Racked.

Elle Monus

Image Consultant

Expert Answer

Apple shapes do well with empire waist tops and jeggings to prevent excess fabric in the hips and thighs (while also fitting your tummy).