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This article was co-authored by Mary Church, PhD and by wikiHow staff writer, Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA. Dr. Mary Church is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Honolulu, Hawaii. With over a decade of clinical experience, she aims to integrate evolution, genetics, and neuroscience within the practice of psychotherapy. Dr. Church holds a BS in Psychology from Eckerd College and an MS and PhD in Experimental Psychology from The University of Memphis. She completed a Post-Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at The University of Hawaii at Manoa. In addition, Dr. Church is a member of the American Evaluation Association and Hawaii-Pacific Evaluation Association.
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Being playful with your boyfriend can spice up your relationship and may even make it last longer. Often, as couples, we forget that we have to play, getting so serious and with lots of responsibilities. If you want to be more playful with your boyfriend, add a little flirting and teasing to your relationship. Additionally, be more spontaneous and fun by trying new things together. Alternatively, put a couple's twist on popular, easy to play games.
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Method 1
Method 1 of 3:
Flirting and Teasing
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1Create silly nicknames for each other. Silly nicknames are great because they make you both laugh. Plus, they can be an inside joke. To pick the perfect nickname, think about your partner's favorite things, bad habits, and embarrassing relationship mishaps. Then, try to turn that into a nickname.[1]
- For instance, let's say your boyfriend tried to make you breakfast in bed but set off the smoke alarm. If you both laughed about it, you might call him “Smokey.”
- As another example, let's say your boyfriend hates sports but spent an hour playing a basketball arcade game to win you a teddy bear. You might call him “MVP” to remind you both of the incident.
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2Tease them playfully to make them laugh. When you tease your boyfriend, pick topics that you can both comfortably laugh about. You want him to feel amused, not hurt. Make teasing jokes about your relationship mishaps, your boyfriend's bad habits, and the things you like about your boyfriend.[2]
- For example, let's say your boyfriend accidentally got you the same present twice. You might tease him by saying, “I guess I know what I'm getting for my birthday.”
- If your boyfriend has a habit of being late, you might start saying things like, “Let's meet at 6:30 Liam Standard Time.”
- You might tease him with compliments by saying something like, “You really need a haircut, but I'm loving this werewolf boyfriend look.”
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3Touch and tickle your boyfriend to tease him a little. Being flirty and playful also involves a little intimacy. Make light touches on your boyfriend's arms, neck, back, and legs to remind him you're interested in him. Alternatively, give him a light tickle to make him laugh.[3]
- Tickling is a great way to be intimate in a silly, playful way because it's something you can only do with someone you're in a close relationship with.
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4Take something that's his and get him to chase you. Steal his hat, take his book, or snatch his game controller. Then, tell him he'll have to catch you to get it back. Make him chase you for a few minutes before letting him catch you. When he grabs you, collapse into his arms laughing.[4]
- It's best to avoid taking important items, like his phone or wallet. Keep the game fun and silly by taking something that won't get broken or damaged.
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5Feed each other yummy treats. Putting food onto each other's lips or tongues is very intimate while still being playful. Take turns gently feeding each other. Here are some treats you could try:[5]
- Strawberries
- Grapes
- Chocolates
- Bite-size candies
- Ice cream
- Donut holes
- Cake
Variation: Wear blindfolds while you feed each other to make things more intimate. One person will wear a blindfold while the other person feeds them. Then, the blindfolded person will guess what the food is.
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6Send your boyfriend playful or flirty texts. This can include memes, pictures of you, references to inside jokes, or sexts. Try to send him at least 1 playful text a day. For instance, you might send him a funny meme in the morning and a flirty pic right before date night.
- Only send things you're comfortable sending. You don't have to send sexy photos or texts to your boyfriend if you don't want to do it.
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7Keep a couple's journal so you can share playful love notes or stories. Your notebook will be a fun secret between the two of you! Get a journal or notebook that you can share. Write a sweet or silly note to your boyfriend as the first entry, then give it to him. Invite him to write you a note back.[6]
- Your entries might include love notes, silly stories about you two, or your favorite memories from your relationship.
- Set a goal for how often you'll write in the notebook. For instance, you might decide that you'll try to exchange the notebook at least once a week.
- Don't worry about filling up a whole page.
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Method 2
Method 2 of 3:
Being Spontaneous and Fun
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1Go to a local park and play. Use the playground equipment, throw a frisbee, or play on the splash pad, if there is one. If you have time, plan a picnic in the park, then play some games. This is a fun, free way to play around together.[7] [8]
- Feed the ducks if there's a pond.
- If your city has more than 1 park, make a trip to each of them.
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2Stage a friendly pillow fight. Write a note that says, “This is a pillow fight.” Put a pillow near the door of the room you're in and lay the note over it. Then, call your boyfriend into the room. As soon as he picks up the pillow, attack him with your pillow to start the fight.
- Don't hit him very hard because you can hurt someone with a pillow.
- Laugh and scream to make the fight more fun.
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3Take silly selfies that you can send him later. Get your boyfriend to do funny poses with you or to make silly faces. Take a bunch of selfies and laugh at how silly you both look. Then, send him your favorite silly pic a few days later to keep the laughs going.[9]
- You can also use one of your silly selfies to make a custom birthday or anniversary card for your boyfriend. It will be a playful, funny reminder!
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4Make a craft project or recipe as a way to play together. Being creative together is a great way to add play to your relationship. Choose a craft or recipe that you're both interested in making. Then, get the supplies and spend an afternoon creating it. Don't worry about doing it right because sometimes a fail is more fun than a success.[10]
- For example, cook dinner together, make a fancy cake, paint an abstract painting, make holiday decorations, build a birdhouse, make candles, or use modeling clay to make sculptures of your favorite characters.
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5Celebrate a made up relationship “holiday” just for you two. Think about your boyfriend's recent accomplishments or the first time that you did something together. Then, plan a special date to celebrate it. Make a special meal, get each other a small gift, and toast the good news.[11]
- For instance, make the date of your first kiss a monthly holiday. If you kissed on October 14, you'd celebrate on the 14th of every month.
- Similarly, celebrate your boyfriend making the soccer team, winning a math award, finishing the video game he's been playing, or getting a promotion.
- Constantly be looking for ways to celebrate with your boyfriend. This will help you both be aware of the good things in your relationship. Plus, it lets you have fun together.
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6Go on an adventure date with them. Adventures are always fun, and they help keep your relationship exciting. Pick an activity that lets you explore something new, then see where the day takes you. These are some ideas:[12]
- Take a hike.
- Visit a rock climbing gym.
- Go geocaching.
- Take a trip to the beach.
- Tour your hometown.
Tip: Don't try to plan out your adventure. Just pick a location or activity and see how things unfold.
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7Start a hobby together. A couple's hobby can help you get closer together while keeping the fun going. Pick something that you both enjoy, then start doing it together. Here are some ideas:[13]
- Play a sport, like tennis, bowling, or one-on-one basketball.
- Take dance classes.
- Collect comic books.
- Try live action role playing.
- Take a pottery or art class together.
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Method 3
Method 3 of 3:
Playing Games
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1Play 2 truths and a lie if your relationship is fairly new. Take turns telling each other 2 true things about yourself and 1 lie. Then, get your partner to guess which 1 is the lie. If they're right, they get a point. If they're wrong, you get a point. Whoever gets the most points wins the game.[14]
- This game can also be played with drinking, if you're old enough. Instead of giving points, you take a drink whenever you guess wrong or your partner guesses your lie.
- While any couple can play this game, it's easier if you don't know each other that well.
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2Use Never Have I Ever to learn more about each other. This game is great for learning all of your partner's secrets. If you're playing the game without drinking, you each start with 10 points. Take turns stating something that you've never done. If the other person has done it, they lose a point. Whoever runs out of points first loses.[15]
- This game is commonly played with alcohol. In this version, if you have done something, you take a drink.
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3Roll a die to see if you'll hug, kiss, or something else. This game can be as naughty as you make it. Take turns rolling a die. Whatever number comes up will tell you what you need to do. Talk to your boyfriend to decide what each number represents. For example, your die might represent the following:
- 1-Kiss your partner's cheek.
- 2-Kiss your partner's lips.
- 3-Hug your partner.
- 4-Give your partner a 2-minute massage.
- 5-Feed your partner a candy.
- 6-Give your partner a compliment.
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4Do a couple's scavenger hunt. Make your own scavenger hunt list or look for one online. Then, work with your partner to find all of the items on the list. Let your hunt get as silly as possible![16]
- Keep track of who spots each item first, then give the winner a prize at the end.
- You can customize your scavenger hunt for any location.
Variation: Do a digital date night using a scavenger hunt. Each partner will prepare a list of 10 items. Then, exchange lists and see who can complete their list first. When you find an item, send your partner a pic.
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5Have a couple's game night with your favorite board or card games. A game night is always a great way to have fun. Gather a few of your favorite games, get some snacks and drinks, and settle in for a night of laughter. Here are some 2-player board and card games you could try:[17]
- Exploding Kittens
- Jenga
- Connect 4
- Uno
- Scattergories
- Yahtzee
- Battleship
- Checkers
- Chess
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200911/10-ways-perk-your-relationship
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- ↑ https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/3588/science-confirms-couples-laugh-together-stay-together/
- ↑ https://familyandcouplescounseling.com/2014/02/14/2014212a-valentines-day-special-for-couples-and-lovers/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200911/10-ways-perk-your-relationship
- ↑ https://sdhcounselling.co.uk/24-simple-ways-to-be-playful-with-your-partner-part-2/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/benefits-of-play-for-adults.htm/
- ↑ https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/3588/science-confirms-couples-laugh-together-stay-together/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/benefits-of-play-for-adults.htm/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200911/10-ways-perk-your-relationship
- ↑ https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/3588/science-confirms-couples-laugh-together-stay-together/
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/5-ways-to-bring-play-back-into-your-life/art-20342117
- ↑ https://www.luvze.com/19-fun-boyfriend-and-girlfriend-games/
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About This Article
Mary Church, PhD
Research & Clinical Psychologist
This article was co-authored by Mary Church, PhD and by wikiHow staff writer, Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA. Dr. Mary Church is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Honolulu, Hawaii. With over a decade of clinical experience, she aims to integrate evolution, genetics, and neuroscience within the practice of psychotherapy. Dr. Church holds a BS in Psychology from Eckerd College and an MS and PhD in Experimental Psychology from The University of Memphis. She completed a Post-Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at The University of Hawaii at Manoa. In addition, Dr. Church is a member of the American Evaluation Association and Hawaii-Pacific Evaluation Association. This article has been viewed 122,415 times.
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