How to Avoid Becoming a Weeaboo

Last Updated: March 26, 2023 References

There's nothing wrong with being passionate about Japanese animation or comics, frequently referred to by Western fans as anime and manga respectively. However, many admirers are hesitant to admit their appreciation, fearing association with a subculture that is commonly referred to online as "weeaboo." The term "weeaboo" ultimately derives from the phrase "wannabe Japanese," which itself is often shortened in online communities to "Wapanese." In principle, there is nothing wrong with joining a subculture,^{[1]
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Method 1

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Breaking Free of Weeaboo Habits

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Do not use weeaboo language. In any group environment, there are factors that encourage cohesion and indicate member status.^{[2]
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Research source} A major indication of a weeaboo in your midst is the use of broken and incomplete Japanese in casual conversation, often in emphatic or overly dramatic ways. Using Japanese ungrammatically can be culturally insensitive, hinder communication, and create difficulty should you choose to learn the language in the future.^{[3]
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- Kawaii (かわいい | cute)
- English statement + desu (です | very/so much)
  - Variation: English + Japanese adjective + desu (です). For example: "I passed that exam so you know I'm kakkoii desu."
- Suffixes like -kun (－くん) and -chan (－ちゃん)
- Baka (ばか | stupid)
- Sugoi (すごい | wow!)
- Chibi (ちび | short/small)
- Ne (ね | right?/hey!)
- Nani (なに | what?)
- Shindeiru (死んでいる | dead)
- Ohayou (おはよう | good morning)
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Do not abnormally prioritize things that are Japanese. There are many positives to joining a group or subculture, but in-group bias isn't one.^{[4]
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Research source} The automatic assumption that Japanese products are superior to others can be self isolating and/or a mild form of delusion. Self-inquiry is a good way of diffusing weeaboo tendencies. If you can't identify the reason why something is better, chances are your preference is a matter of taste. Some questions to ask yourself:
- Why do I like this Japanese product?
- What is different between the Japanese product and a similar, non-Japanese product?
- What makes the Japanese product better than a similar, non-Japanese product?
- is this Japanese product really that better?
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Do not alienate yourself through your choice in clothing. Dress code and other social conventions telegraph group membership to others.^{[6]
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Research source} There are socially appropriate places for you express your interest by wearing the same costume as your favorite character, like at an anime convention. Choosing daily clothing styled after anime characters is, in many cases, the hallmark of a weeaboo.
- A single accessory or article of clothing from your costume can add flair to your daily outfit without appearing socially inaccessible to others.
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Do not neglect your authentic self. You can meet new friends and boost your creative capacity through role-playing specific characters and fantastical scenarios,^{[7]
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- Accept that your personality changes as a function of growth, as do preferences and beliefs. Even if you consider yourself a die-hard fan, respecting the potential for future change influences more moderate (and less weeaboo-like) behavior.
- Occasionally put aside instant gratification, including anime, manga, costume making, and online activities. Reevaluate personal goals and your place in your community.^{[10]
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  Research source} Are you happy with where you're at? Ignoring these in favor of Japanese cultural pursuits is considered evidence of a weeaboo.

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Educating Yourself

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Watch Japanese documentaries. These are an excellent way for you to gain insight into the human struggles of everyday life in Japan. Some notable films on Japanese culture and expatriate experiences are:
- Jiro Dreams of Sushi (2011)
- The Kingdom of Dreams and Madness (2013)
- Hafu: The Mixed-Race Experience in Japan (2013)
- Brakeless (2014)
- Kokoyakyu: High School Baseball (2006)
- The Invention of Dr. Nakamats (2009)
- "Men Behind The Sun" (1988)
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Take a course in East Asian Studies. Even if you don't plan on getting your degree in Japanese language or culture, learning the historical reason for contemporary culture can clear misconceptions and minimize out-of-context assumptions. Weeaboos are perceived as doing just this. Fixation on aspects of Japanese without the cultural framework necessary for accurate interpretation can lead to a warped perspective. As an added bonus, your knowledge of Asiatic history and culture will improve your ability to make sense of future encounters with Japanese culture.^{[11]
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- If a college course is out of the question, you can contact your local Japanese Cultural Center or embassy to see if there are activities you can join. Popular traditional arts you can ask about:
  - Taiko (太鼓) drum classes (taiko is played with Japanese drumsticks (bachi) )
  - Kendo (剣道, Japanese fencing)
  - Shodou (書道, Japanese calligraphy)
  - Sadou (茶道, Japanese tea ceremony).
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Invest in books on Japanese society. A frequent criticism of the weeaboo subculture is that its members only consume overly dramatized mass media. Reading on a variety of topics will help you to achieve a more complete picture of the intricacies of the Japanese way of life.
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Study different cultures or learn a foreign language. Language and culture are closely linked.^{[12]
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- You don't need to study Japanese have the advantages that accompany bilingualism. If there is a community nearby that speaks a language different than your own, immersing yourself in that community can promote acquisition.^{[16]
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Community Q&A

Question

If I cook Japanese food, am I a weeaboo?

Cehea

Community Answer

Of course not. You're only considered a weaboo if you're obsessed with Japan. You're allowed to appreciate Japanese culture and eat Japanese food.
Question

Would studying Japanese and going abroad make me a weeaboo?

NY Blossom

Top Answerer

No. Liking the culture doesn't make you a weeaboo. Obsessing over the culture does.
Question

Is it okay for me to be offended if a weeaboo comes up to me and assumes I'm Japanese without asking my ethnicity?

Community Answer

Yes, it is. Assuming someone's ethnicity is rude. In the future, I would just politely tell them that you aren't Japanese and that you don't like it when people assume your ethnicity.