How to Attract a Cancer Woman

Co-authored by Stina Garbis

Last Updated: March 29, 2023 References

Cancer women, like their crab astrology symbol, are naturally cautious and feel most comfortable at home. They are also fiercely loving and loyal towards the people closest to them, making them great romantic partners once you break through their tough outer shell. By being sensitive to a Cancer woman’s shyness, you can get to know her in a way that feels comfortable for her. Appealing to her love of family and helping out around the house, too, will show her that you know home is where her heart is.^{[1]
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Method 1

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Overcoming Her Shyness

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Make the first move. Take the initiative and introduce yourself to a Cancer woman. Try not to be overly aggressive by using intimate pickup lines or invading her space. Cancer women are naturally shy and are apt to be more open to a laid-back approach. Try to notice what she’s doing, and use that information to say hello.^{[2]
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- For example, if you see her select a candy bar a the grocery store, you could say, “Is that one good? I’ve been meaning to try it. I’m Mark, by the way.”
- If she’s not doing anything in particular, just start simple. Say, “Hi.” If she says hi back, ask her how her day is going.
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Choose activity-based dates. Take your Cancer woman to a movie, concert, or another date activity where she is not the sole focus of attention. Having something for both of you to focus on will keep her most comfortable. If conversation lags, comment on the activity at hand.^{[3]
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- Avoid intense one-on-one dinner dates early on, which may feel like an interrogation to a shy Cancer.
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Show vulnerability. Reveal a little bit about yourself when she asks you questions rather than giving short answers. If there’s a suitable opportunity to talk about something that was a challenge for you, go for it. Your Cancer woman will appreciate your ability to open up.^{[4]
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- For example, if she asks how you got into teaching, rather than simply saying, “I like it.” You could say, “I really want to make a difference for kids. My dad wasn’t always around growing up, and I had a teacher who made a really strong impression on me during that time.”
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Be patient if she takes a while to open up. Try not to be put off if a Cancer woman dodges your questions. Table the topic for now, and circle back to it when you know each other a bit better. Cancers are protective and naturally shy, especially about their families and close friends.^{[5]
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- For example, if she says avoids a personal question, say, “No problem. I want to make you feel comfortable.”
- Give her opportunities to help you and be close to you.^{[6]
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- Be careful about her changing moods. Give her space when required.^{[7]
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Do what you say you are going to do. Prove you are trustworthy by following through on your actions and words. Cancer women crave a reliable, stable partner. By showing her you can be that person, she’ll be more attracted to you.^{[8]
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- For example, if you say you’re going to pick her up from work, leave enough time in your schedule to make sure you can do it. If you offer to water her plants while she’s on vacation, do a good job and follow all of her directions.
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Don’t date around. Focus your romantic attentions on only the Cancer woman if you’d like to build a relationship. Fidelity and trustworthiness are very important to her. If you’re dating multiple people, you should be really clear about that to make sure you’re both on the same page.^{[9]
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- For example, you might say, “I’m really interested in taking our relationship to the next level. I’m not dating anyone else right now because I don’t want to show disrespect to what we’re building.” She’s likely to respond favorably.

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Appealing to Her Love of Friends and Family

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Invite her family along for activities. Plan a picnic or another casual, daytime activity that would enable you to get to know her family. Let her know that you want to invite them because you know how important they are to her.^{[10]
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- For example, you could say, “I love how close you are with your mom. Does she want to come hiking with us on Sunday?”
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Do a double date with a couple of her friends. Grab dinner and a movie or play putt-putt golf with her friend and their significant other. If you don’t know them well enough to arrange it, show interest by suggesting it to her.^{[11]
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- For example, you could say, “There’s a great new pizza place by my office. Do Suzy and John want to join us for a pie on Saturday night?”
- It’s best to invite a longstanding couple and your Cancer woman on a double-date. That way, she won’t feel guarded meeting a friend’s significant other for the first time.
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Show understanding when she prioritizes her friends and family. Tell her you know how much she loves her friends and family when she has to change plans to accommodate their needs. Show concern for the wellbeing of people who are important to her by asking about them after the fact.^{[12]
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- For example, if she bails on a date to take her brother to the doctor, you could say, “No problem at all. Pizza can happen anytime. Is he okay? What can I do for you both?
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Ask about her family history. Flip through family photo albums with her and ask about her heritage. This is a great time to ask her questions about beloved family members or simply let her tell stories from when she was a kid.^{[13]
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- You could say, “Is that a picture of you and your Grandma Betty? It sounds like she was an amazing woman. What’s your favorite memory together?”
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Introduce her to your friends and family. Show her you’re willing to bring her into your life by letting her spend time with your family and friends. Arrange a fun activity that will let her shine.^{[14]
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- For example, if your Cancer woman is a great artist, you could all do a sip-and-paint night at a local art studio with your sister.
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Avoid criticizing those who are important to her. Hold back critiques or feedback about friends and family of hers you don’t know well. If you do criticize someone important to her, do so only to show her you are on her side and want to support her. Try to show empathy whenever possible.^{[15]
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- For example, if she and a friend get in a bad fight, you could say, “I know how much you guys care about each other. It concerns me that she got so personal with her attacks on you. Are you okay? Can I do anything to help?”

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Showing off Your Domestic Side

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Cook her a meal. Dust off a favorite family recipe of yours and make her a thoughtful meal at her place.^{[16]
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} Many Cancer women love a quiet night at home where they feel most comfortable. If you invite her friends or family, it will help illustrate how much you value those important to her, too.^{[17]
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- If you don’t have a family recipe to share, pick a cookbook recipe that reflects some of her interests. It doesn’t have to be a complex roast. If she loves Mexican food, she will love the effort you put into some fresh guacamole.
- Don’t forget to do the dishes!
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Host a movie night. Create a cozy atmosphere with dim lighting, lots of pillows, and some fresh-popped popcorn for a laid-back evening at home together. Tell her she’s welcome to wear sweats or pajamas, so she knows you are concerned with her comfort.^{[18]
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- Have a couple of films lined up, and let her choose the direction of the evening.
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Clean up after yourself. Take care of her home by cleaning up after yourself when you cook or come over. Keep your own place tidy, too, so she can see that you treat your home with respect.^{[19]
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Fix things around the house. If you’re handy, care for her home by making it function better. Repair a leaky faucet or humming refrigerator without her having to ask.^{[20]
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- Taking good care of her place lets her know that you understand what a sanctuary her home is to her.
- If you’re not particularly handy, unload her dishwasher or perform another simple chore to help out.
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Take care of her pet. Show love to her furry friends with walks, ear scratches, and treats when appropriate. By showing her you value her companion, she can begin seeing you as a seamless part of her life.^{[21]
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- If she’s not an animal person, offer to housesit for her or pick up her mail when she’s out of town. It’ll make her return home that much sweeter.